Ok to start off please don't be ***holes about this. I REALLY don't need that BS.
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^This is where my problem started. In short he's 20 I’m 16, we flirted had a great time(for whole story see link above, you may have to copy paste it). Now he's all I can think about, I called and left my number at the gym he works at(again see long version). But now all my friends are like you shouldn't have, you can't go out w/him, don't even think about it. So out of 4 friends 4 have disapproved of me even talking to a guy who is 20. but my mom says to go for it as long as we aren't doing "it." I wanna talk to someone about everything, how I feel, what I’m going to say, what we would do if we went out(like where we would go), but I don't have anyone to talk to and I don't know what to do. I just wanna go get rid of all these feeling but I can't cause I don't have anyone to tell. What should I do?
So y'all know I am a FIRM believer in abstinence.
2007-03-06 12:26:52 · 10 answers · asked by zippy7766 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You will get passed this and find another person to be obsessed with.
A 20 year old guy would want to get physical so it's best if you just stay friends.
2007-03-06 12:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by whatsupppppp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a guy that "used" to be 20... I would be very careful if you really want to be "just" friends! At 20... guys still think with another part of their body other then the part between his ears. To be honest... it does not stop at 20. Anyway - I know it will hurt but moving on is the best thing to do. There will be parties you cannot attend due to alcohol - not able to stay out with him - going away for weekends, etc... it is best to stop it now before you can get really hurt. Good Luck!
2007-03-06 20:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I have 2 points. I think that its cool if you like this guy. We can't help who we like. BUT..if he's 20, its a bit of a diffferent mindset than 16. First of all, the whole abstinence thing. I think you'll find that 16/17 year old guys are a lot more tolerant of the whole not having sex dating but a 20 year old will definitely try to have sex with you (so just think about that if you really want to date this guy....that will probably mean giving up your virginity to him). My next point is that 20 yearold guys ( most of them anyway) are just not as romantic as 16 yearold girls and so if you do want to date him, you just have to not expect loads of phonecalls, and lots of sweet romance. If you really want that, i'd stick to guys closer to your age for now...there's always plenty of time for older guys later, but trust me, older guys will want sex, no doubt about that.
2007-03-06 20:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by glim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 20 and you are 16?He shouldnt be in no stinkin sweaty gym, why he should be in JAIL!Your mom9with all due respect) is a first class idiot. Dont get mad, hang with me a sec.If you were, not saying you WILL, but say you DID do "it" with him and got pregnant and he dumped you, ...do you have a carm a job and make enough to raise you and your baby?Most guys over 18 know how to play you teenage girls.What happened?Has he quit calling you?Maybe he is afraid of getting hooked up with jail bait?It isnt likely your 4 friends are wrong.Listen to them, they seem to have more sense than your mom.
2007-03-06 20:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to date him one more time, ask him about his sexual orientations and is opinion on abstinence and after that see if u are compatible or not.
it`s just my idea or this abstinence thing is religious based?
in that case...u should be sure that u don`t want to change your values by passing time.
one more thing, u may like him... no problem... but does he likes u back?
and...the age thing is stupid! i am 21 and when i was 19 i had a boyfriend who was 33...and still we didn`t do "it" because at that time i was an abstinence believer too.
2007-03-13 07:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by sclipym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's worthy of you, he'll respect your decision to be abstinent. you're only 16 and if he is a genuinely good guy, he'll respect that. forget your "friends," they're just jealous. been there, done that! i would definitely go out with him! LISTEN TO YOUR HEART! ignore anyone and anything else that is different from what you feel!!!! good luck!
2007-03-06 20:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by rubydoobydoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he makes you happy then go for it and your friends must not see that you are happy! true friends would be there for you no matter what! I think you should try it and if he respects you then you should have nothing to worry about! so just have fun and dont let anyone get you worried! have a wonderful day!!
2007-03-14 19:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by jacks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your situation is common as of today, age gap in terms of a relationship is not a problem, as long as the two of you are open to each other. criticism by other people is just their point of view, they say it because they see it as improper,, but may i ask, what's proper and improper with regards of love, specially if the relationship is so close and intimate.
2007-03-06 21:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by jhust b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know a couple that was dating when she was 17 and he was like 30 they were real happy together practiced abstinence and now they're married very happily and expecting they're first child
2007-03-06 20:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by Big T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm not sure............but i can tell you this! email me! my email address is: iluvinhabited@yahoo.com. i can DEFINETLY try to help! i love talking, and i'm a pretty good listner, if i do say so myself. i AM just a teeny bit younger than.....16, but.....i'm a girl.........please write to me! thanks!
2007-03-12 13:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by iAnswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋