am divorced living with my family sister and my mother my son loves my sister more than me! am breastfeeding him sitting with him the whole time and change his diaper and feeding him solid food but in the result he loves my sister more is that normal or because we sleep all in one room?
2007-03-06 12:18:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Being a new mother can be scary, I know, and you wonder if your child is maturing the right way, but first think about it. While you take care of your child, does he smile, laugh, do baby talk? That is normal baby behavior. If hes doing it at all thats good but if he isn't you might want to contact your pediatrician.
What is probably happening is your baby might see you so much that he doesn't get excited over you. My husband comes home from work everyday and my 6 month old a three year old act like they haven't seen him in weeks. laughing smiling wanting to be held by him, they get upset when he leaves because honestly, hes the fun one! When hes home he just sits and plays with them, I do all the other stuff. This might be the situation with your sister. Kids usually love to be with thier aunt, uncles, or grandparents. Why is that? Because they just want them to have fun all the time. Didn't you love to be around those people when you were a child? Stop stressing, he loves you, and he loves you more than your sister cause your his mother, he knows he can trust you. Just wait till hes a toddler!
2007-03-06 12:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sara R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA! I just have to say a child has a never ending love no matter what for their mother, maybe you feel that way because of something different or other issuse I don't know, but I do know breast feeding your baby is a special time for bonding etc. and you are doing the right thing. I'm in the same situation with my family too, that's why I said what I said I wish you the best of luck, try to think positive even though it's hard to I'm sure. That baby boy loves his mommy more than anything in the world and always will nothing can change it. Good Luck!
2007-03-06 20:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it from a different perspective: How excited are you to see someone you see all the time? It could be your son is just acting more excited around your sister because he doesn't see her as often. I know my daughter barely gives me a second glance but jumps all over my husband when he gets home. The tables only ever turn if I leave her for a few hours or more.
2007-03-06 20:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by mina_lumina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say he doesn't recognize his mother, does he not recognize you at all or you mean he doesn't love you best? I think at that age sometimes kids just fixate on someone, for example, my daughter sometimes ignored my husband when she was around that age (and he was with her all the time, fed her, changed her, played with her), but a few months later and now she's daddy's little girl. You're his mom, he probably does know this but it just being picky right now.
The only thing is you do everything for him, do you give yourself time to play with him? Maybe your sister plays with him so he seems to like her because of that?
But I wouldn't worry about it, your son is lucky to have three people living with him who love him and care about him!
2007-03-06 20:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by IDon'tWantToLiveOnTheMoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is naturally getting nurtured by more than one person. Enjoy the help and try not to be jealous. Give him the love and attention he needs and ask your mom and sister to respect your authority. They can reinforce this simply by saying things like, "Do you want Mommy to feed you? go to mommy" . Also, watch how your sister interacts with the baby. Maybe he is responding faorably to her style of nurturing. Try to emulate the things that she does that he seems to like.
2007-03-06 20:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by answers999 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child loves you. My daughter is also 8 months old and sometimes I get upset because she interacts better with my husband and son than she does me, but anytime she is sleepy or hungry she always wants her mommy and I'm sure that your son is the same way.
Not trying to offend you, but you may want to talk to your doctor about post partem depression.
2007-03-06 20:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kristin R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE COULD BE MORE THAN JUST A PROBLEM WITH THE BABY'S ABILITY TO RECOGNIZE YOU OR HAVE YOU THINK THE BABY DOESN'T LOVE YOU, GO TO THE PEDIATRICIAN IMMEDIATELY TO HAVE SOME MILESTONE SCREENINGS DONE AND POSSIBLE A ROUTINE PHYSICAL.
2007-03-06 20:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by thehammer33196 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋