We only eat lunch together, then we go off in 2 different directions to join other friends after lunch. I have been doing this to be kind because we used to be friends and she has no one else to eat lunch with in the cafeteria, her friend she sees later brings her lunch to school. I'm thinking of bringing my lunch to school to eat with the friends I see after lunch, but don't know how to tell my friend in a really nice way that I've outgrown her and want to hang out with others now. Well, I won't say I've outgrown her, but that is what has happened, unfortunately. I want to be kind, that is why I have put this off for months. We don't talk as much, just eat lunch now, because we just don't have anything in common anymore, unfortunately. Help!
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2 days ago
Well, I already asked her to join my group after lunch and she has met them. She hates the group, she doe
2007-03-06 12:04:46 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
she doesn't understand the jokes and i have to explain them to her. I feel bad for and and really obligated to her. Plus she is in my band class and I want to keep her as a friend for next year's band as well as this year's. I have to think about whether I can invite her along when I switch to my new group because I just don't want to hurt her feelings and I know how she feels about them--she just feels left out because we talk about things that don't interest her but interest me. Does anyone have other ideas?
2007-03-06 12:06:15 · update #1
I wouldn't even attempt to abandon her in any manner.
Remain friendly with her as long as she wants.
You may be only one of a very few friends that she has. I bet that your friendship is very important to her.
Remember that some of the greatest rewards in life come when you reach out and help another person without regard for getting something in return.
2007-03-09 07:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure this person would much rather have your honest friendship rather than pity. If you can't find enough in common with her that you enjoy her company, in all probability, she isn't enjoying your company either. You should just be open with her about it and let things naturally fall into place. She'll live through it, I'm certain.
2007-03-13 21:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did this in 10th grade....
Just spend 3 days telling your current buddy that these other people want you to sit with them and they aren't sure about her.
She doesn't like them anyway, so she will not want to have anything to do with them.
2007-03-07 23:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by Santa Barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋