Hi All;) .. Why do so many people have low self-esteem?;D?

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People, try to get "self-esteem" from tons of places, but ALMOST no one is self-assured and happy.. with who they are... ???
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Answer 1

With lot of people this starts from childhood. Not been given enough positive attention or love, not made to feel special or praised when they do good, And this continues through the years and as a result those children grow up not having any, love or faith within them selves or being happy.This can the go on to make them unable to react in relationships with people, work, family, lovers etc. some are also badly treated when younger and that can make them hate themselves.However not everyone suffers from this.......thankfully....good luck.

Answer 2

Sometimes, a high self-esteem is worse than a low self-esteem. For example, self-esteem can be high but fragile (narcissism) or low but stable (humility).

The point is, you have to love yourself and some people don't because they were told by their parents or significant others or whatever that they were no good and they believed them or because they constantly compare themselves to people they think are better than them...

Whatever the reasons, it is extremely hard to find the right balance when you are judging yourself. I personally have (or think I have) a healthy self-esteem (neither high nor low) because I love myself, I think I'm smart and beautiful but on the other hand, I feel sometimes guilty about it. I know what I'm doing but I would not say I'm self-assured because I'm still shy in places where there's a lot of people because I'm afraid how I will be perceived.

Just love yourself, be good whenever you can and if somebody is better than you, do not compare yourself to them, just try to learn from them so you can improve yourself.

Answer 3

I have little self esteem because I worry about the state the planet will be in for my children in a few years time.

I also am concered by the prospect of dying at leaving my children behind and getting into a long term relationship and then having to deal with the death of my lover when I am a very old man.

I am also concered with the fact that all the jobs I am after could go to single mothers or teenagers who are trying to get there life on track.

I dunno, I guess I just think about the effect things can have on people to much but that's how I am.

If you fancy helping me, click on my name and answer my question please because yahoo does not seem to want to post it.

Thanks x

Answer 4

It could be society pushing at us models and celebrities and pictures of people that society thinks are beautiful. That creates the idea that we are supposed to be as beautiful and perfect as they are. That someone if we are like the people we see in magazines and on TV that we will be happier. When we fall short of these expectations that we set for ourselves we tend to think poorly of ourselves.

It could also be the company we keep. If you are with a guy/girl who keeps putting you down for who you are; pretty soon you might start to believe it.
These are only a couple of examples; but I'm sure there are plenty more out there.

Good question Kimberly.

Answer 5

Some people are more able to build themselves up by pushing other people down. I do not find it easy to argue back when work colleagues (for example) use me as a means of showing how good they are. My view is that on many occasions their confidence is fragile - not borne out of any skill or talent but by behaviour which can often border on bullying. Often my attitude is 'if they want to do this, then let them - life is too short', but I know that long-term this impacts my ability to cope without losing self-esteem.

Answer 6

Low self esteem. Well, low in comparison to what? If they compare themseves as lower to other people, then they have a limited view of what the "Self" is. As people learn, they realize that the self does is not as limited as they think. As understanding of the the self increases, so does esteem because the qualities of the self then describe more.

So many people have "low self-esteem" because when they say "I AM _____" they do not realize that "_____" is everything.

Answer 7

Around us, there are so many people that we are intimidated by. We are often so intimidated by the talents, looks, etc. of these people that we often forget our own personal talents and what we have acheived. For example, many people wish that they looked like a certain person, and then focus on the flaws of their own appearance instead of realizing that they are beautiful as well in their own way.

Many people are also intimidated by the talents of others. They are so occupied trying to paint like a certain person, or write like a certain person, etc. They often forget that they have their own unique talents that many others do not possess.

Some people also have low self esteem because of the way they have been treated throughout their lives. Some people have been treated so negatively that they feel that they are worthless and will never be able to live up to those around them. This is in all honesty not true, but these people have been convinced that they are useless in every way imaginable.

People have yet to realize that they were created in their own special way with their own talents. I try not to be intimidated by people around me because I know that they, too, have imperfections. Sometimes I feel very assured and happy with myself, while other times I feel worthless. It depends on the people I choose to spend my time around. Others around you really affect the way you act and feel about yourself.

Answer 8

Low self-esteem can be product of adverse circunstances in our lives, adjetives received during our infance and adolescence, conditioning our behaviour, also can come when a pregnant mother rejects her own child in the womb...
The truth is that we can try doing our best effort for encourage ourself and take control of our lifes and with the help of God walk forward...

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I can think of two main reasons- but sorry, extremely tired to explain them in many words. hope you understand what I mean though.

1. an instinct to improve ourselves: human's have the basic urge to survive- to do this they must be GOOD- SMART- BEAUTIFUL- low self esteem can probably stem from the urge to be BETTER-SMARTER- PRETTIER an attempt to lead a better, healthier life

2. pressure of society: in society today people are sourounded my comercial ideas- of beauty - and good ness- unreal ideals. creams for anti-aging!! for heavens sake!! let women be women and have some wrinkles!!!

we live in a society where people who poses virtue and good quality are put down by those less furtunate who have to pretend they are the best in order to survive, these pretenders squash down others- and make them have low self esteem...

I think.. this is jsut what I think.. I Don't nkow...

have to sleep :)

good night