mom doesnt let me have any privacy. she knows all my passwords to my email account and my myspace account. its no use having a diary because she would find it.if i have a secret of any kind she has to know.i cant tell her anything because she has a very very very very very bad temper.my dad is better but he doesnt pay any attencion to me or my mom.and hates people and thats why we live in the country.hes also very paranoid.he used to work offshore but he hurt his back so he thinks people are watching him 24/7 because he is waiting for a huge settelment.and i cant go to the movies or eat out ect.... because we dont have very much money.we are like the poorest people in my family and im embarrased when family comes over.i have to get most of my clothes at the goodwill.im so miserable.cant somone help me???
2007-03-06 11:33:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's a difficult time for you right now, but it will end. My mother was the same way, so I never wrote in a diary again. Try to keep busy outside if the weather is good, be with your pet if you have one. Inside, watch DVD's, listen to music with a headphone in your room, write real letters like to your grandparents if you have any. I don't know how to get your Mom to respect your privacy but doing nothing to make her distrust you is a start. She's in a rough spot, too.
2007-03-06 11:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing you can call family services and explain your situation, as this is a form of neglect.
You're mom is very controlling. I had a controlling mom,too and read a book called "If You Had Controlling Parents" that helped me.
You should talk to her and stand up for yourself.Does she physically abuse you,from the phrase "very very very bad temper" ? If so you can get protection from child services, who will investigate her and your home.
Talk to her for now, tell her how you respect her privacy and how you expect the same from her.
Now,your dad it sounds like is physically there but mentally and emotionally, he's in his own little world.He's paranoid about the money because you said you all don't have much money, and a disability check is quite large. So he's worried he won't have the money he needs..and deserves. I'm not justifying his paranoia. I am just saying. He wants to keep a hold on what he has and not lose it.
Sorta like your over-protective mom,constantly watching you.
Family counseling for all 3 of you and maybe marriage counseling for your mom and dad would help greatly.
You said you can't go any where so I am assuming you're under age and can't drive?
Why not join a club at school or do you have a hobby?
I guarentee there has to be at least one person at your school who shares your interest?
2007-03-06 19:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lauran B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was broke to as a kid. I lived 30min away from my closest friends. It was horrible. You'll get over that though. I had very little privacy because I had to share a room with my sister. Your mom is just worried about you. It sounds like your parents are very stressed about the money situation, and it is reflecting in their parenting.
2007-03-07 02:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by lilly j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie it may suck now but you'll be an adult soon enough and you'll be able to leave amd do what you want, just hang in there and get through it maybe try explaining to your mom you need more privacy and if your a good kid then put up your goodness as points why you should get it then dont abuse it. also you'll understand money problems when you grow up sometimes it can be harder than you think so cut them a break there
2007-03-06 20:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by autumnangel235 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need God. I am nobody you would know but in the last year I have started to pray for people and discovered God is real. He loves us and actually wants to have a relationship with us. In fact, he is my best friend and sometimes he tells me secrets and I do the same. You need this! So how do I know I am not just making all this God stuff up in my mind? Well I have been praying sick and I have seen about 20 completely deaf people receive their hearing. I have prayed and God has healed blind people, people with cancer, etc. Many miracles have been instant! Like I said, I am a nobody. You might feel that way too right now. But I am somebody to God. He loves me and I spend time with Him. I went to church my whole life but I didn't really have a personal relationship with God. Now Holy Spirit loves to come and show me things. Sometimes Jesus comes in the room (I can't see him but I know he is there) and I love that too. If you want to know Jesus all you have to do is call out to him. Get alone in a room and just start talking to him. Jesus said, "If you seek me you will find me". I spent about 2 weeks really seeking hard before he became real to me. I am not saying it will take that long for you, but I had a lot of stuff to overcome. I am going to pray for you right now and you might feel Holy Spirit come into the room as you read this. In the mighty name of Jesus, I break the oppression over you now. I bind the power of the oppressor in the name of Jesus. Holy Spirit, I am asking you to become real in that room right now. If you want to have a relationship with Jesus, just say this and mean it, "Jesus I want you to become the Lord of my life. My life is a mess, I give my life over to you." There is much more to learn but Holy Spirit will start teaching you as you spend time with him. You should get a bible and start reading the new testiment (get an easy to read translation like the NIV version). You can find a bible at most bookstores. If you can't afford one, email me and I will send one to you. If you have any questions you can email me at doug@increasingglory.com
2007-03-10 16:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by Hian B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋