WHAT SHOUld I DO! FEELING HURT AND BETRAYED HERE!?

Question

ok. So I am always the last to know, i never get invited to anything. I just feel so hurt and betrayed! Today i was waiting after school fo rmy dad to pick me up. My friends were hanging out without me! ONCE AGAIN! They were going to each other's houses and i am never ever invited! Well, there's this girl in our group, that they know i don't like. Like i DISLIKE HER VERY MUCH! And she was invited, was i? NO! Why her? I feel like they just stabbed me in the back. My best friend who was supposed to be there for me wasn't. She was invited too. SHe know's how i feel. THe last time the had a little get together or whatever, and i was at home bored to death! When i found out, I WAS PISSED! They kept on calling to ask, what's wrong? do they even have to ask that? I would expect her to know it. After all the years we've known each other. And they were trying to hid from me today, so i wouldn't see them. I did. ANd that girl that's in our group i swear she is trying to be me or something.

Oh yeah. And my friends met my who is now supposedly my best friend because of me. I introduced them. I know it's not my best friend's fault becasue when ever she haas anything at her house she always calls me up. but my othere friends never do, they call her up. They've known me longer than they've known her, but still they call her up, not me. And that girl that i hate that i think secretly hates me. She is trying to dress like me, cut her hair the same way as me. HAng out with my friends and exclude me! Every time i leave, to go somewhere for a second, i come back, she's sitting in my seat. Which is the middle. Eveyone knows i always sit there. Eveytime i ask her to hang out she says no. When they ask her she says yes. This weekend they went to the mall without me because i wouldn't go and all of a sudden, she's me??

Answer 1

Well, if they ask you what's wrong, then tell them! They shouldn't be treating you that way. Ask them why they never include you! Ask if they are really your friends, and if they do say they are friends with you, then say why are you're being left out of almost everything. You can consider asking them why the girl is replacing you, as long as she is not around, she just may have your friends turn against you.

Is that girl fairly recent (a few days to a few weeks ago)? She may just be trying to fit in and trying to find stablilty by taking your spot in the group. Heck, she may be flirting for all we know.

Try hanging out with them as much as you can and contribute. Like where you guys should hang out during the weekend or something.

If you want to do something drastic if nothing turns around, go up to them, and say you are not friends with them anymore and hasta lavista. That may wake them up, but be sure that you are prepaired to have no friends until you find another if they don't try to get you come back. You may just want to consider on finding another friend (not a lot, just one or two) to hang out with when you feel ignored.

Try seeing your guidance counsellor for any advice. You don't have to say their names (my experience is that if you do, they'll call them down and you to 'discuss' things) and try finding a solution.