well am a lil confused about something rite now ive been with my girl 4 a lil more than a year and well i like being with her and all but we been seing each other bhind her parents back and her parents are divorced so shes with her mom on weekends and with her dad on weekdays i was cool witht that but now its getting a lil harder 2 b with her i tell her so when u ganna tell ur parents about us she tells me she dont know she tells me if her parents knew it would b harder 4 us 2 c each other but i think it would b easier that way we wouldnt have nothing 2 hide but she keeps telling me not now and she keeps thinking am pressuring her but am not then she tells me she dont like it when i ask "when are u ganna tell ur parents" she gets mad i dont know y i just thought girls would like 2 introduce who they are with 2 there parents instead of hiding it i dont get it i would understand if it we berly started going out but its been more than a year so am confused .......help! i just dont get it
2007-03-06 11:12:16 · 3 answers · asked by wickS^__^ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I agree... perhaps now is not the time.... issues in the air maybe.
On the other hand, if she is waiting for "the perfect time" to tell them... sometimes that time doesn't happen and may not happen.... because delaying instills a more permanent fear... and rather than delaying "for reasons of the perfect time which doesn't come", it's better to tell now.... just to beat the permanency of the fear of telling.
Just be prepared that if you are like planning to get married, you may be in for an elopement.... because at that point she may not want to tell that the two of you are getting married... for the same reasons (e.g. risk of losing the relationship) as she doesn't want to tell them now that the two of you are just together and have been for a year...
And then if she gets pregnant, she might not want to tell them, etc.
Again, right now, it could just be the timing and issues being dealt with at hand. Good luck!
2007-03-06 11:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by blueskies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, yeah, you kind of are pressuring her. just give her time, and when she feels comfortable enough to tell her parents about you, then you can be okay. but i understand the you are confused about seeing her behing her parents back. maybe her parents are really strict. all girls are different, so... just good luck, man.
2007-03-06 19:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by bugsandtweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how well do you know her parents? if she tells them that might mean the end of the relationship and she's probably afraid to risk it.
2007-03-06 19:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by runningballerina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋