Should I tell her how I feel?

Question

Alright, I'm 16 years old (I'll be 17 late May) and I have a major crush on one of my customers at work. I work at CVS, and she works at Dillards, in the mall. Whenever I see her, I just get extremely nervous and anxious, and can't wait to check her out (at the register). She is amazingly sweet and we have spoken to each other every time she comes into CVS.

She has told me a few random things about herself, like where she works, what department (cosmetics), what her hours are, where she used to live/work/etc. I have even met her mother when they came in during the Christmas season!

The glaring problem? She is one of my customers who I really, really like (my feelings for her aside, she *is* one of my better customers). I would hate to lose her as a customer if I told her that I liked her. Also, I barely know anything about her, which is pathetic! However, she did notice once that she hadn't seen me in a while and she thought I had switched jobs, so at least she notices me, y'know

Unfortunately, she happens to be about 10 years my senior. Or so she appears to be in her mid- to late-twenties. I do not have a problem with that in the least, but I have a feeling that she might be hesitant to hear that a 16 year old high school Junior likes her, y'know?

Thanks for y'alls input!

Right, I *really* want to tell her how I feel, but she usually comes in around 6:45, right before the 7:00 rush. Great timing, eh? I just, I want to tell her so badly, but I don't want my manager or her mother-in-law to overhear (they're both sweet, self-proclaimed hicks from a backwoods town in Florida who are not ashamed to make known their opinions of gays or blacks). Also, telling her when a line is forming right behind her wouldn't be the wisest thing in the world to do, either. Then it would be rushed, and hectic, and blah!

I don't know if I should go to Dillards and accost her there (!), or what. It's just...so confusing...

Well, yeah, the age thing, but I don't look my age. Most people think I'm 18+ because I don't look/speak/or act my age.

Answer 1

Personally, I'd be careful just judging from the age. I'm 23, when I was 21 I had a 16 year old decide they liked me. Knowing my state laws about Age of Consent (which they do look into more than just sexual things by the way) I decided to start avoiding the person. When it comes to that kind of thing you have to be VERY CAREFUL because of legal things, the parent of the minor could accuse the adult of doing things they'd never even dreamed of just because of the age difference.

Secondly, age difference though most don't think it's a big thing, it can be sometimes. I think over 10 years is a huge difference and I too would be worried what they think. They may think of you as a "cute kid" and finding out you like her may cause her to act strange around you, though I'm not sure as I don't know either one of you.

I would be VERY careful regardless of what you decide. I think if I was you I would probably keep it to myself with such a great age difference.

Answer 2

I'm not trying to minimize your feelings for this girl but you have to leave this alone. You are underage and she is an adult .. I would give you the same advice even if it were a man you liked. Nothing good would come from you telling this girl your feelings for her.Besides you don't even know if she is attracted to females. She may just being nice to you cause your sweet and a "kid" to her.How about just trying to be Friends with her ... maybe suggest meeting for a snack before or after work. After you get to know her you may lose some of the nervous sexual energy your feeling ... You may even find she's straight... either way do not tell her.

Answer 3

Hun, I know how you feel--I've been there my self when I was back in high school. You can't deny your feelings for her--and there is no guarantee that she'll be offended if you were to tell her, but trust me when I say you're better off finding a girl your own age (or at least within 5 years, that seems to be the best.) You have to realize, if anything even did happen you could get her in serious trouble....I know you must feel isolated (and it's possible that you haven't even openly came out yet) but there will be girls for you, especially once you reach college. Your best bet is just to keep friendly with her, but if you must tell her I'd try to arrange it outside of work (hers or yours.) :You'll get a girl honey, but older age stuff like that is only going to lead to trouble especially when you're so young. College will bring better times, I promise ^_^

Answer 4

Just try asking her out, ask her to lunch or a movie or something, and see how she reacts. If she's told you where she works and her hours and all, it sounds like she just might be interested, so just put it on a friendly basis, ask her if she wants to go out sometime.
I don't think you're going to lose a customer either, not if you keep it on a friendly basis until you get a clearer indication of how she feels, and then if she says no, don't get upset, just continue to be friendly.

Answer 5

I'd suggest stopping by her work for a change and talking to her there. Invite her out for coffee or something sometime. Get her phone number to stay in touch and maybe hang out some time. That way you two can get closer without risking your job.

Answer 6

Yes, you are an employee, so you have to think about that side of things... but you're also a human being, girl! You deserve happinesss, including relationships. I would say that you should let her know how you feel!
Sometimes the person you tell will feel the same, and sometimes they won't. But even when they don't, you'll feel better inside. You'll feel good about yourself that you were honest and had the courage to say what you felt.

Answer 7

You've a security problem. Your casual friends,, ask her to lunch or break. I don't think cvs will lose a customer because you offer a friendship?????