i told him about it in the beginning but its like i feel stronger about it now
2007-03-06 10:18:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well..this is hard... there's nothing that says you have to act on your feelings.You could commit yourself to just him.You would still have your feelings but you would just choose to love him enough to not act on them. You can be attracted to both sexes but be in a committed relationship with just one person. Understand though that suppressing feelings like this does sometimes cause problems later.
I think you would need to have a very open and honest deep conversation with your boyfriend... so that he knows your feelings and can make an informed choice. Remember treat other people how you would want to be treated. No secrets or surprises. Think about even if you were straight you would have to work at keeping a commitment to one man if you married. He has to work at staying with one woman ( you) too....
From personal experience I don't think these feelings will leave you. Your job will be to grow in way that you can deal with them.
2007-03-06 15:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have never been this way except for when I supported and left God when I was 15 and came back to him. Anyways I think that you follow youre heart and even though God says it is wrong to be that way, not that I am gonna preach. But if you were never taught as a human being that you are growing up that it wasnt wrong then that is all you know. What you are taught is what you know. We all must make our own choices and stand for ourselves because in this world, everyone is for themselves and that is what hundreds of people and they will go back on their own words just to save themselves from losing friends or something like that. The world is a confusing place and what you like or do not like is up to you. Make your bed and lie in it. No one and I mean no one, no matter who they are to you, can not make your choice for you. No matter what they say. That is how life is. It is called free will.
2007-03-06 18:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just so happen to know someone who is a female and is married to her husband but still fools around with chicks!
She doesn't go all the way with them, but she still crosses the line so to speak. She used to fight about it with her man a lot but, she made it into an attention thing and put a positive spin on it so that people think her husband is some kind of stud and is so lucky to have a girl like that. So now he is OK with it because he gets positive attention from everyone he knows about it.
All types of relationships exist, just discuss it with him no matter how mad he gets initially and see what happens.
2007-03-06 18:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by Eyerish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The power of porn, trust me it works better than you'd think. When I got into a committed relationship with my girlfriend I started missing being able to pick and choose who I was with, but I love her so I was able to get through it, with a little help from my favorite gay porn site. There's nothing wrong with a little fantasy, if you have the imagination for it a little role-play might help too. Monogamy is hard but if you really love him then it's worth it.
2007-03-06 18:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's only stronger because he is acceptable with it. you might want to try it on your own for a while just to see if you still feel that way and if it's something that you really want to pursue or if it just isn't a function of the relationships that you're in. is this something you're willing to pursue absent any relationship with a man or is this what you really want. if you can't answer those questions it isn't worth going into marriage with him.
2007-03-06 18:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself and your bf a real favor, seek some outside counseling to figure out what's going on. Being bisexual isn't the healthiest avenue to pursue in life. Somewhere along the line - the lines, YOUR lines got "crossed" woudn't you like to explore that with a counselor and find out for certain?
In friendship and wishing you luck.
Grace
2007-03-06 18:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Easy just:
1. Get a hot girl as your "friend"
2. Introduce her to your bf. (this is make him attracted to her.)
3. Tell him he can have sex with her as well as you as long as he accepts you for who you are.
4. As any man would do he will say yes and maybe it might involve a camera, a donkey, a pink eraser, and one of those spinny hats.
5. Repeat steps 1-3 as much needed.
2007-03-06 18:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by grapejam26 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Talk to him about it. Maybe he'll let you have an open relationship. If not, you have a choice to make.
Or, you coud just lie to him all the time. I don't recommend that, though.
2007-03-06 18:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by Earth Queen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could live a life as a lesbian and have to explain yourself every step of the way, or you could suck it up, be normal and be with someone who won't judge you. (Your b/f).
2007-03-06 18:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your bf about bringing another female into bed with you, that's every man's dream, so both of you will enjoy!
2007-03-06 18:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋