A teenager comes to you and tells you that they want to have a baby.....?

Question

They they are going to be actively attempting to get pregnant at 14 or 16, what goes through your head......

"what a dumb ***"

or

do you stop and think that maybe this idea of hers should be raising some red flags, just possibly she may be trying to get some help for something else that is going on in her life? Teens who are healthy and have strong support systems do not just all of a sudden want to have a baby, some teens get pregnant on accident, but if someone actively wants one and is advertising that she wants one, thats the same as the teen who tells everyone that he or she is going to commit suicide, you tell because you want someone to stop you and help you. Do you agree or not?

Answer 1

I agree it is definitely a "red flag." I don't necessarily agree they "feel" like they want to be stopped. Girls at this age are going through hormonal changes and can feel maternal at times. Because of their age, they are not capable of realizing the full impact of such a decision, in their life. They are just looking at the small picture and the "ideal" of having a child to love and to love them back can be very appealing. Teenagers are not mature enough to take on the responsibility of raising a child, but remembering back to my teenage years...teenagers know EVERYTHING and are hard to convince of this.

There could be other contributing factors for a teen wanting to have a baby....like thinking that a child will fill an emptiness she has inside or possibly to "trap" the father into a relationship...it is hard to come up with an absolute answer to why females do the things that we do (and I am one).

Whatever the reason...Kids should NOT have kids. It isn't fair to the infant (who doesn't have a choice), the teenager (who now has to give up her childhood and grow up quickly), the infant's father (who knowingly or unknowingly is now saddled with the obligation of supporting the infant for at least18 years), the teenager's parents (who will more than likely be taking on the additional responsibility of the infant) or the state (who will more than likely be taking on the financial responsibility of raising the child).

Answer 2

not to sound mean to anyone (and maybe i'm just old fashioned-even though 20-) but kids should NOT be having kids until they are atleast in their 20s and should be married instead of having unprotected sex with different people or their boyfriend/girlfriend and then counting on mommy and daddy or some other relative to care for their baby while they're at school or partying. If you want to have a baby.. think long and hard before doing so and make sure you're set so that you can give your baby a good life and not some young teen mother without a husband or baby's daddy around while balancxing school and parenthood. but this also shows how lax our society is to accept such.

Answer 3

Ya it is like knowing that someone is saying that they are going to commit suicide, Im not sure if this girl really realizes what a big deal having a baby is... I think that she might be trying to cover up something else in her life that is going on and she dosn't know how to deal with it so she tries to bring attention to herself with this so that she can try and forget about her problems. She needs to realize that a baby will bring more problems especially at 14 or 16.I think that you should stop and tell someone before she acctually goes through with it and ruins her life.

Answer 4

yes you need to get her some help because first of all she is too young to even grasp the idea of what it takes to raise a child and besides she needs to get her own priorities straight first-go to school and just worry about being a teen don't allow this idea she has to become a goal or obsession she needs help!Yeah i am only 21 and have a 7.5 mos old and sometimes i wish i still had my mommy. so what is she thinking right that's crazy!It is prob for attention or maybe she just needs to feel loved by someone and that's what she thinks having a baby will do for her but it's sooo much more than that.I would suggest counselling there is definitely more to this.

Answer 5

some form of professional counseling is needed, there is something at home that the teenager is obviously not getting from one or both parents, having a baby is no way to cover up the problem of feeling unloved or unwanted, alot of teenagers who claim to want a baby are only doing trying to do so to fulfill a void in their lives and really don't think of all the hard work and sacrifice that it really takes to be a parent, especially when they are that young and are trying to compensate for what is missing in their life....

Answer 6

no. i think it's kids trying to act grown up.
get out a pencil and paper and show the girl what a baby costs and how much time they take out of your life. no more dates, movies, hangin out with her freinds.....
ask her where she is going to get that kind of money at 14!
she can't even go out and get a job at that age. ask who will care for the kid when she has to go to school or to work.
kids don't think in the long term.

Answer 7

i am ashamed to admit the first one. i'm 17, we had to do that baby thing where you take care of the baby to prove you aren't ready for kids...i am NOT ready i have a 4 year old brother so i know i don't want to...i've already made a big enough mistake of ALMOST having sex last week...i know its with the right person, it's been a year and a half...but i know i'm not ready for sex OR kids.

Answer 8

I have two teenagers of the ages 12,and 13 and if they ever come and tell me that they feel that they want to have a baby around 15 or 16yrs. I will put my foot in there A**es.

Answer 9

Babies having babies what a shame.You are to young for sex let alone a baby.

Answer 10

Your kids for *!*!*! sake.
Dont grow up to fast.