my dad said i look "good enough to get married! " and if I died, he will say "oh that is fine. i raisied you like a flower but you are stupid!" that killed me!
2007-03-06 09:35:28 · 7 answers · asked by spells5454 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
dont have kids becuz of ur dad. u need to be emotionally ready. everyone's differnt.
2007-03-06 09:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by melissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong age to be ready for kids. I strongly believe that to have babies should be a deliberate and conscious decision between two responsible people, regardless of age.
I actually know a very young couple (both under 21) who are raising 2 kids (ages 2 and 8 mos.) and are doing an excellent job at parenting; and then too there's this couple (both in late 20s) with just one kid (age 4) who are clueless about parenting.
It's not the age, it's the mind set (the state of preparedness).
I'm so sorry to hear that your dad said those unkind things to you. Maybe he just have a lousy sense of humor or was having a bad day. There's no excuse for rude behavior but he's your dad. And if only for that, you must still show him some respect, whether he deserves it or not. The moment you show disrespect, you are no better than him.
Keep your cool. SMILE!
2007-03-06 18:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Inday 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you mean, but if I were you...I would ignore the ignorant things he says, like when he implies that you're stupid. Seriously...people can be jerks, and parents are really...only people. I'm sure he has no idea how much that upset you.
What did he mean by 'look good enough to get married'? Sounds to me like you really need to learn to choose what to listen to, and what NOT to from that one.
Just for the record...no one is EVER ready for kids. When you're as ready as you'll ever be...you'll know it, (not your father)...but no one is ever fully prepared for kids. They're the best thing in the entire world...but they will come up with things you never even THOUGHT to prepare for! LOL!
2007-03-06 17:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you are ready for children when you can support them financially. You are ready for children when you have a committed partner, preferably married to that partner who also wants children. You are ready when you have accomplished enough in your own life that you won't be trying to live through them or feel limited by them and resentful. Finally, you are ready for children when the desire for them is almost overwhelming and the thought of going through life without having children brings you to tears.
2007-03-06 17:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no idea what your saying but your not old enough to have a child, and you don't sound ready. Finish school, get a job, get married, then think of kids.
2007-03-06 17:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what does he know about ur decisions on whether having kids or not? once ur an adult, you have to make ur own decisions, no matter what other people say, except ur parents. You have to try to convince each other whether having kids is good or not.
2007-03-09 18:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by ღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you make no sense..
2007-03-06 18:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Symbiotic Harmony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋