Get over nervousness?

Question

I start a new job tommorow, how do I handle the nervousness of being around a bunch of ppl I dont know. I have suffored from anxiaty my whole life and pills dont help. It has actually cause me to not start jobs before. I drive there and get so nervouse I drive away.

Answer 1

I sympathize with you; However, I have learned One thing very clearly, in that I, am as good as anyone I have ever met.

Maybe your thinking since your "new", that "they will all be looking at you" and thinking whatever, we have all thought that. Every football game I ever played I gazed across the field thinking, "Damn, their big"; you guessed it, they looked back and thought the same thing, yeah, we later talked about the game and learned it was true.

People view you and size you up, in the workplace some will size you up as a friend, a drinking buddy, a bowling buddy or even as a BF/GF thing; or, they may size you up as "the competition"; "will he/she get my job"...it's about them, Not you; how they view thier performance and how it mighjt size up against yours. Will you get promoted over them? Will you get a raise or maybe you will become thier boss...god forbid...:)

Happens all the time.

Relax, we all have had anxiety. Anxiety is normal and honestly, yes, even cop "Inspectors" get anxiety all the time, from time to time, it's stress and stress is normal, do not let it control your life, move forward and complete your task each time and you'll see anxiety go away soon....promise.

I can also add, that excersize combats anxiety, run, lift wieghts and it will disipate bigtime, soon, if you keep tossing up challenges, you'll notice that there is little time to be anxious about things as your always challenging things that are "scary"....jump into it and see that scary ain;t so scary...:)

As a retired cop I can tell you I worked at a small department with 10 cops; small town cops must over come a complex bestown upon us as being hicks. It's like, sine your in a small department, your a dummy who can barely write a ticket; large town departments like San Fransisco and San Jose Pd cops would look at us like we were funny when we came to a cop training school in thier city; they snikering stopped when I smoked them time and again on crime scene investigations and did very well. I later learned such large departments propmoted cops to "Detective" or (sfpd) "Inspector" after a few years on the job (inspector took longer) but I was on the job15-17 years and had all this street knoweledge and crime solving junk cramped into my head....it was great; my point, Don't let others tell you your limits, think for yourself, have confidence as Nobody will hand that to you, your as good or better than most...and above all, be humble, like yourself,a nd treat others with dignity and respect (while having fun) and ignore the assholes who out number good guys like you.
One thing that stands out about you is that you say flat out that certain things bother you, many can go an entire lifetime never making such admissions so you way ahead of the game.

Good luck

Answer 2

Meeting new people should be considered a joy instead of a burden. Be yourself and there's no need to be nervous about something which you have no control over. Give it your best and try being an optimist for a change.

Answer 3

I learned from the late Dr. Hunter S. Thompson, that there's no situation stressful enough, that a handful of Valium and a shot of whisky won't handle.

Answer 4

They're not a Bunch of new People. They're a bunch of your New Friends. And they're really wanting to get to know you. Congrats on getting the new Job. Knock `em Dead, Tiger!

Answer 5

1. Take deep breaths
2. Keep telling yourself "I can do this"
3. Remember that you're not going to die or screw up your life forever.
4. Be friendly and kind, introduce yourself, allowing everyone to like you right away.