My 16 YO daughter tried to sneak alcohol to her dad's house for the weekend and got caught on school grounds with it. She wasn't drinking, but had it in her possession. In addition, another girl that rides my daughter's bus saw it in my daughter's bag on the way to school and asked for some. My bright offspring proceeded to put some in a bottle provided by the girl. The girl drank it before getting off the bus and got sick once she got to school. With that said, my daughter was suspended for 10 days (currently on her 6th consecutive school day) and faces expulsion for up to two semesters.
I don't want my daughter to get off easy, but seriously, expulsion for a year? I grew up in the 80's - a time when the 10 day suspension would have been the maximum penalty. Anyone got any experiences or stories to share? Does anyone else think this is a bit excessive?
2007-03-06 09:33:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
FYI...this is her first offense, of any kind, and therefore does not have a pattern of chronic misbehavior. She's NEVER been in trouble....EVER.
2007-03-06 09:51:25 · update #1
This is perfectly fair. First of all if you had not had any doubt in your mind that this is unfair you would not be asking for a stranger's opinion. Second your daughter is 5 years too young to be legally possessing alcohol and could be charged with illegal possession and distribution to other minors which is punishable by law. Seeing how your daughter is only sixteen and is already drinking is not a good sign and if punished hard now there will be a lesser chance of this to happen again.
2007-03-06 09:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by lilwhitekid41 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I want to be nice about this, but maybe you have a 16 year old daughter who's taking alcohol to school with her because she knows her mother thinks it's not a big enough deal that she should get a harsh punishment for it. When I was in high school way back when they handed out a list of rules and possible punishments on the first day of school. Did you and your daughter look through the copy her school sent home with her? Did it say a two semester expulsion was the punishment for alcohol on school grounds? If it does, they're doing exactly what they said they'd do if your daugter did what she did.
2007-03-06 09:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by Faeldaz M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Expulsion is utterly ridiculous. The 10-day suspension is understandable. I would imagine you have already met with the school principal, but of course, if you have not, then I would arrange that meeting as soon as possible.
I would bet that the school is willing to allow your daughter to perform community service rather than be expelled, and it would be a good move on your part to suggest that.
Having alcohol in school is certainly impermissible by any logic, regardless of who is consuming it, but I would fight any sort of expulsion through the school board. A expulsion will hinder your daughter's education progress, could jeopardize college admittance as well as have drastic negative affects from a social perspective.
This is also a sign for you - while it is nearly inevitable that teens will experiment with alcohol, there is a time and a place for doing so. The complete lack of judgment involved in her decision to take liquor to school, leave it exposed for others to see, and even go so far as giving it to a friend may indicate a problem that extends further into her private life than you may care to look.
2007-03-06 09:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Josh 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Two semesters is excessive... BUT does she have prior infractions. As a teacher, I can tell you what you already know... alcohol or any drug on school grounds is grounds for expulsion. If she has a very squeaky clean prior record, then you have grounds for an appeal. But... if she has other school infractions ,then the district knows what it is doing. It is attempting to rid itself of a trouble maker. I mean no insult.. but could you be in denial about what your daughter is doing when you are not around?? Giving alcohol to another student is very serious for someone so young. They bear watching more than a two year old.
2007-03-06 09:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whilst your daughter was very irresponsible, I think that the suspension is harsh. I know of some girls who smoke on school grounds, got into trouble and got d/t (detention) for a few weeks. I'd put the alcohol incident at most the suspension and a few weeks d/t.
2007-03-06 09:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by phangedphluff 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This punishment seems fair to me. My father brought alcohol to school in the 70's and was expelled. He was held back because of it. I'm glad to hear schools are still taking a strong stance about illegal substances at school. Underage drinking is a huge problem, and schools need to have a no tolerance policy.
2007-03-06 13:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by queenrakle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No..I'm sorry but if your daughter brought alcohol to my kid's school I would want her suspended too. It's unfortunate that she made this poor decision. As opposed to suspension, contact the district and ask for a transfer. They might be willing to let her back into classes at another school, at least that way she is not missing school..
2007-03-06 09:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she has never been in trouble before, then the 10-day suspension sound adequate. I would talk to the principal and try to appeal any type of explusion.
2007-03-06 10:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by cammie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do. you cant really physically harm someone with alcohol and the worst you can do is take some. i mean i see people smoke near school and dont get in trouble. She also sounds like a kid who doesnt get into trouble. I see that if you explained to the school her case it should be a 10 day suspension
2007-03-06 09:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by jam j 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋