He is 23 and I am 22 and we have 2 kids. We have a 6 month old boy, Blake Andrew, and a 2 year old girl named Jennifer Alexandra. We are in a great finantial condition and we live in a town house. We know each other since the fifth grade. Why hasnt he asked me to marry him?
2007-03-06 09:29:24 · 17 answers · asked by Silvia 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
We also have a very strong relationship!
2007-03-06 09:30:08 · update #1
Well, he is very shy. Maybe he is scared that I will say no...but I would never say no to the father of my children!
2007-03-06 10:12:25 · update #2
Maybe he's planning something big, are you going on a vacation any time soon or anything like that?...or maybe hes not ready and likes the way your relationship is now and dosnt want to change anything just in case it would ruin it. He will ask you when the times right!!
Congrats!
2007-03-06 10:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by lilly s 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm with Lyndalu on this one. You're the cow and the milk is free... (not literally but you get my meaning.)
Also age could be a factor... it's around the 30's that men seem to get that "urge" but then again, you're already acting as a wife so he won't get the urge as a guy who doesn't have one would.
If I were you, I'd move back in with my parents (assuming I had both at home) so that my kids would learn what a marriage is supposed to be and look like. Otherwise you're teaching your daughter to be an unpaid whor... and your son that it's OK to treat women that way. Notice I did not say you were one. Just that he's treating you like one...
Have some self respect, my dear. And don't make any more kids with him. The ones you got may be the ones to suffer from your naivetés. It's time you and your guy grow up and stop playing house. Make it for real. If anything, don't do it for yourselves...do it for the kids.
I'm sorry if you thought I was harsh, I'm trying to be honest and courageous enough to tell you the truth. I could have been nice and lied to you by saying no sweetie, he will marry you one day...
2007-03-06 18:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by cnith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he have to be the one to ask? I know you probably want a romantic moment where he gets down on one knee, etc, etc. But if you really want to get married, ask him! It can be equally as romantic. Imagine how it would feel when he says 'yes.' If you're scared to ask him because he might say no, then perhaps that's an insight into how he's feeling.
Also, weddings are extremely expensive - about £10,000 for the full works. Perhaps, with 2 children, your husband doesn't feel financially comfortable. Or maybe he'd rather spend the money on your children for now to give them a good start in life.
Either way, I say you should ask him. It shouldn't have to be on the man to ask. We fought for equal rights as men, we should be prepared to do what they do!
Good luck!
2007-03-06 18:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by sketch_r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought of proposing? There have been many cases where the women has proposed or you could drop little hints to him that you want him to ask you to marry him such as
Looking at wedding magazines
Talking about what kind of wedding you would want when the time comes
Talking about what kind of Honey Moon you would want
Looking at catering magazines and saying how much you would like to have this dish or that dish at your wedding
When you go to say the grocery store with him go over and look at wedding cakes
Watch wedding shows
I am sure there are many more ways to drop hints you want him to propose but this is all I can think of
2007-03-06 18:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound nasty but why should he? When you act as a man's wife, what is his motivation to actually go through with a legal marriage? I honestly believe that if you move in with a man, it's a lot less likely you'll get that marriage proposal. Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?
It is kinda sad though that you have 2 kids together and he isn't marrying you. You should talk to him about it and see if marriage is something that he wants. If he doesn't, it sounds like you're stuck but there are couples that do live happily together without the marriage license. Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn.
2007-03-06 17:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
maybe he isn't ready to tie the knot yet. But the best thing to do is talk, ask him where he believes the relationship is going to. Marriage isn't everything.
2007-03-06 17:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by briannasmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are not ready for marriage. If you two are happy then stay the way you are now.
2007-03-06 20:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by Martin A Neville 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have such a good relationship, ask him why?
I'm sure if he isn't ready, he would tell you, and if he is, than you didn't loose anything by asking.
I believe in open communication.
choose a good time to talk about it, when you are both relaxed and the kids are in bed. bring it up softly. be open, don't be scared.
2007-03-06 17:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by imbcg 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He'll ask you when he is ready. I know you are very anxious, but maybe he wants to wait a little bit.
2007-03-06 17:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he doesn't have to. Why would he when he has it all right now? If it's a problem to you why don't you talk to him about it. He may never ask you if you continue to play house with him.
2007-03-06 17:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋