I'm about to start a better job, and we had planned this trip together, but now I can't take these day's off. He insist's i should let him go alone, but we have had a rocky relationship TRUST being an Issue. Im not to sure i want to let him go and party and drink and be around half naked women for 4 days while im working and at home with our 2 kids. Am I wrong?
2007-03-06 08:58:42 · 15 answers · asked by juju1006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Without solid trust, there is no solid relationship. I think he should go if the trip is already paid for. It'll give you both time to think about the quality of your relationship. You can't keep him from cheating. He can do that right there in the town you both live in. If he wants to, he'll find a way no matter how closely you watch him. Maybe extending a little faith would at least aim you in the right direction. Counseling could really benefit you if you allow it to. Good luck.
2007-03-06 09:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice, is either Trust him to stay faithful, or Dump him. A relationship without trust isn't a relationship in my opinion. If you decide to trust him, you could always just call him during the times would be most troubling or when he could be doing something and engage in long conversations. If he's rushed to get off, ask him why. Then call him an hour later to see if he can talk then, until he finally does sit and talk with you. Listen for voices, music, etc. Talk loudly, and say you Love him, if theres a chick with him and hears that from the phone, he may be busted.
2007-03-06 17:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by Jason Sin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think to yourself first is this a relationship you want to be in where theres no trust? . Trust is a major part of a healthy relationship and wothuot it the relationship is likely to fail. Sit him down and talk to him and tell him how you really feel about the trust issues. If he decides to go anyway there is nothing you can do but trust in you relationship and hope he doesnt get up to no good. But the main thing that i believe you have to do is to sort out your trust issues first. I hope i helped.
xoxoMoeisha
2007-03-06 17:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Moeisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't wrong, you're scared. You need to find a way to trust one another for your relationship to survive even a trip to the local theater.
If it is any consolation to you, the women who work in the clubs are just like you and me. I live in Reno and know a few people who work in the casinos. Most of them have families and husbands at home, and rarely do they have the energy to make new friendships with men in the casinos. They're tired when their shifts end. Most of these ladies just want to go home and rest their feet.
I hope you and your boyfriend can get some counseling and find a solid foundation upon which to build your relationship. One without trust will never make it. Try to have faith in him and let him go with a cheerful attitude. It might make a huge difference in how he views you. I hope things work out for you. Annie
2007-03-06 17:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong. What does he say he's planning to do there? Especially if there are trust issues, I think he's asking for way too much and if he wants to keep you he should back down. Tell him you'll reschedule the trip and go together some other time.
2007-03-06 17:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by mina_lumina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. you are not wrong. You guys have kids he should be there taking care of them if he has the days off. And if there are trust issues then either break up with him or what ever but don't let him go. Would he let you go by yourself?
2007-03-06 17:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m with you on this one, he shouldn`t want to go without you.
That said how are you going to stop him? Why don`t you you trust him?
Have you tried bribery---"if you stay at home I`ll get a sitter for the kids so we can party ". Make it seem like a treat ,although you can`t be with him in the day cos of work, the nights will be something to remember!!
2007-03-06 17:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong. If you think that he can't handle being alone for 4 days with women and drinking and partying with his friends then don't let him go. tell him how you feel about the whole situation.
2007-03-06 17:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if trust is so much an issue..why are you with him? But that's another topic. I'm assuming there's an extra ticket..why don't you suggest a child, friend or family member go with him instead of you?
2007-03-06 17:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him to be away from your watchful eye for 4 days then you should just consider the idea that maybe he's not the one for you.
2007-03-06 17:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by skeezycheeses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋