I just found out that I was passed up for a promotion that I worked really hard to try to get. I seriously tried my hardest and my manager made me believe I was going to get it, then today I find out that this other girl is getting it, even though she knows nothing about the job (she is really good friends with the manager). I really needed this promotion. I'm a single mother who's struggling to get by and this promotion would've turned my life around. Now i'm hurting really bad and feel like i've failed my daughter, because I was doing this for her. How can I cope with the hurt i'm feeling right now?
2007-03-06 08:58:04 · 7 answers · asked by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Well as we all know some times its not what you know its who you know. As a single mother you will have to deal with it. Dont feel that you have failed, it is time you moved on and look for a better job. If you are good at your job and tried really hard for this promotion you should not have problem getting a better one and then living well is the best revenge of course
2007-03-06 09:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by whantmoore 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer your specific question, the only thing you can do is ask the manager what you need to improve on to get a promotion next time. I know this isn't the answer you want to hear. But as far as getting a promotion at your current place, that's all you can do. Plus, you then need to do what the manager recommends.
I want to be frank with you. I can easily tell from what you wrote and the way you wrote it, that you feel jilted over this. The jealousy is obvious. I also believe that you are not being honest about the other candidate's skills for the position. Yes, a manager may pass over a better skilled candidate for another one who is a friend. Although the other candidate is less skilled or qualified, the person is good enough to do the job. But no manager in his right mind puts someone who is unskilled in a senior position just because she's his friend. It doens't make sense and would jeopordize the manager's performance. When I hear someone complain that the other person is not qualified and only got the job out of favouritism, that makes me think you're not being honest with yourself. It sounds haughty and smacks of narcissism. Yes, favouritism happens in the workplace and it's worked for me and against in my career. But to say another candidate was chosen over you for a more senior position despite not having the required skills and it was sole favouritism, I find that hard to believe.
There's no question from your post that you really wanted that job. But try to be honest about what really happened. Favouritism exists in the workplace, no question about it. But perhaps you really weren't the better candidate. Perhaps you are missing a skill the other candidate did have. Or perhaps your relationship with the boss isn't as good as it can be. You need to analyze the situation more objective and get feedback from the boss.
-- Liam
2007-03-06 17:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by almcneilcan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay calm, do not do anything foolish like quitting your job. Be a team player. Work hard and wait for the next opportunity for a promotion. There isn't going to always be a "good friend" to usurp your deserved promotion.
Find a way to get over the hurt. Help the new worker if she needs your help.
Show the manager that you are a bigger person than he is. Be his best friend. Endear yourself to him, associate with the positive persons in the office, do not be negative and miserable, stay away from the malcontents in the office.
Be positive and work towards getting the next promotion that comes around.
You have not failed anyone. You are doing the best you can. Stick with it. Be the best you can be. Get rid of negative thoughts.
If a better opportunity comes around seize it or seek one out.
Good luck and I promise...your daughter still loves you!!!
2007-03-06 17:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it seems like your manager is playing favorites and that's definately not cool. Just dont help the other girl very much. When they see she isnt capable of doing the job, perhaps they'll promote you. There are alot of other positions out there, as well, so dont be hesitant to look around if you arent completely happy with your current job. Good luck.
2007-03-06 17:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by phirephaerie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the person who got the position doesn't know anything about how to perform the work, don't be too helpful. I know that's not very professional, but if she flops on the job too many times, they may have to resort to putting you in that position and finding something else for the friend.
2007-03-06 17:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by Amy V 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one you didn't fail nobody. The supervisor is teh one who is failing the company for giving someone who doesn't know the job the job. If I was you I woudl keep doing my work and worry about yourself and no one else. Because if she doesn't kow the job she will go to you for help, just tellher your busy doing something else. And if she says what you tell her your job. m,aybe she gave th esupervisor something he wanted. But if sahe doesn't get the job done it will look bad on her and him not you. SO do you job as best as you can and move on.
2007-03-06 17:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for another job which pays better...Don't let anybody know(at your work), because it would sure get to the boss...but if they don't respect you, don't respect them back...and leave...
2007-03-06 17:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by Terry C. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋