Do you think it's just superstition?

Question

Do you think the 12 week rule for telling people you're pregnant is partially superstition? I realize most Dr.'s say that your kind of "out of the woods" after that point but what if you're really excited! Do you think you're jinxing it by telling people earlier??

Answer 1

No it's just superstition. Mostly, I think anyway, the reason ppl usually wait until 12 weeks, is because your chances to miscarry reduces drastically when you go into your 2nd trimester. If you tell before then and you lose the baby you have to call them all back with the bad news.

I told people straight away, when I was only 5 weeks pregnant. And a select few knew the moment my blood test came back positive. I just couldn't wait! I'm 13 weeks now and nothing serious has happened yet.

Answer 2

I agree, It is not superstition...I don't want to scare you, but the 12 week rule doesn't have to do with superstition, it has to due with the fact that there is a higher chance of misscarriage during these weeks.

Trust me, I have been pregnant twice, and both times I didn't care about the 12 week rule, but the second time, I lost the baby within this time period, and it sucked telling everyone that I lost it. It hurt really bad, when people would ask about the baby. You almost go through depression.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

Well I think a lot of that comes from the fact that most miscarriages happen within the first 12 weeks, and so it is easier to spare family members and the parents to be if you announce at 12 weeks and can feel like you are "in the clear" so to speak. It would be hard to announce at 9 weeks and miscarry at 10..Which is what happened to my sister in law two months ago...Later she told me she felt horrible about the baby, but she almost felt worse that she had told everybody a week before and now she had to tell them that she wasn't having a baby after all...

I don't really think that announcing the pregnancy before 12 weeks means an automatic miscarriage..I think most parents just want to be on the safe side, and besides 9 months is a long time to wait as it is, it's even longer when everybody knows and keeps asking: "Haven't you had that baby yet?"

Answer 4

Of course it superstition, but for me it was true.
I lost two babies and both times I told everyone straight away. The two pregnancies I had that were succesfull I waited till after my 4th month before telling anyone even the Dr. But I was very superstitious and wouldnt even refer to the baby as a baby, I"d use code words as there is an old superstition that say's the fairies steal babies if they are talked about.
It really doesnt matter when you tell people and it really has no bearing on if you will miscarry or not.

Answer 5

For some people it is superstition, for others it is personal preference.

I am the kind of person who gets way too excited to hold in great news. So for me, I told everyone that I knew would be happy for us right away!
I know a lot of people are much more private, or supersticious and want to wait a few months, but I don't think its necessary.
I think that if you are happy and excited, you should share the news with whomever you want. There were some people I didn't tell because I didn't feel that they would be as happy for me, or I thought they might tell me "its too early to be telling people".. So I refrained from telling those naysayers. But I did tell people that would be supportive and happy for me.
Then after a few months, if you feel comfortable enough to tell others, go ahead. The choice is yours if you want to wait or not.

Answer 6

I told my mom, sister, and 2 best friends the day i found out i was pregnant. I was only 5 weeks along. By the time I was 9 weeks, my husband and I had told both of our families and all our friends and co-workers knew as well. I am now 37 weeks along and anxiously awaiting the birth of our daughter. I don't think I jinxed anything by telling people early.

Answer 7

I don't think it's a bad idea to tell those close to you. I think that the reason physicians advise you to wait to tell people is just that after 12 weeks you are less likely to miscarry-therefore leaving you a lot more privacy. I didn't tell my boss I was pregnant until I was in my second trimester-I played it safe, but it doesn't mean you have to! It's just so hard to keep something so BIG a secret for long-plus I think people will start to notice the mood changes anyway! Lol. They'll ask you before you even tell them! Lol. Have fun! Good Luck and enjoy your pregnancy!

Answer 8

I say you should tell the people who would give you the most support, encouragement and love that you will need to even 'get out of the woods'. Then tell other people when you are ready to.
There were certain people I did not tell right away because I didn't want to worry about what other people thought of it and how it may affect them or me, i.e. work.
Don't feel that there is a set time. You will know when to introduce your baby to the world. Congrats!

Answer 9

No,I don't see it as jinxing it, but it is better to wait even though you want to shout it from the rooftops. It's because most miscarriages happen in the first three months, and if you go around telling all and sundry that your pregnant, you would need to go round and tell all and sundry that you aren't pregnant anymore if something awful should happen, and that's not a conversation you will want to have once, let alone a million times.

Answer 10

You absolutely don't "jinx" yourself by telling earlier!! There's no rule that says you must wait until 12-13 weeks to tell people!

It's your choice!! I found out around 5 weeks and the entire world knew the day I found out! I didn't really wait to tell anyone.

You can tell people when YOU want! :)