Okay, so I have been head over heels for my neighbour for about 2 years now. I ended up seeing him at a party one night and we hooked up. The 1st 3 months were GREAT However a few months into the relationship I started having doubts that I loved him.
It feels like I have two little people arguing in my mind, one half saying that I love him and the other half saying, no you don't. It's driving me insane and on days where it's worse I feel sick.
I've told him about it but it hasn't really helped.
Anyway, my behaviour around him hasn't really changed, I still kiss him enjoy being around him, snuggle with him and all that type of stuff, but sometimes my mind says, no, you don't love him, you shouldn't be doing this.
I cry, I feel sick and basically I don't know what to do.
Is there somethign I'm subconsciously thinking to make me think this? Has anyone else been through a similar thing?
This is my 1st non dramatic relationship if that means anything....
Thanks!
2007-03-06 08:34:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds dramatic to me. I guess because he is so close by and willing you just fall back on the comfort of him being there. Not really fair to either one of you, don't you think? You are having questions because you know it's not right.
2007-03-06 08:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by kk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are waiting for him to be just like the other relationships that you may have had- you are doubting that he loves you like you may love him or u don't know if you love him at all- Or you do love him- but not "in-love" with him
For the record- you don't have to love someone to make out with them- if you are dating him then it wold be weird and even a little mean not to kiss or cuddle with him. Just give yourself more time with him- ask him what type of relationship he is interested in- who knows- he may not be interested in anything more than a make out session or two anyway- You are asking yourself too many questions without having the info you need to answer them-And also- EVERYBODY gets those thoughts-- I have the same problem with my guy, and we have dating for 5 years!! Sometimes I doubt my love for him, wonder how it'd be if I dated other people- other times- I wouldn't want to be anywhere else. Just cut yourself a break- let go and have fun- life is too short to worry about it! Good luck!
2007-03-06 17:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people FEAR that which seems perfect. The fact that there is no drama makes it sound like u have been with jerks in the past and now this "decent" relationship just scares u......The relationship is normal, your thought process behind it is crazy......lol. Just go with the flow and enjoy it.....good luck!!!!
2007-03-06 16:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Papi G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a little crazy!! good luck
2007-03-06 16:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by CRYSTAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CRAZY!
2007-03-06 16:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by ivory_plr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋