I was in a relationship with my ex for 3.5 years. I was her 1st everything, but we had 2 split b/c of differences. After we split, I found the most wonderful girl I've met in my life. I immediately fell in love w/her. She is my dream girl & we've never had sex, we just talk & enjoy each other 2 the fullest. I really respect this girl, but in the mean time, my ex was heart broken b/c of her. She cried every night & tried 2 kill herself. Against my new girls will, I'd go 2 my ex's house & try 2 make her feel better by talking 2 her b/cI was her only real friend, but we never did anything.
1 night, I got drunk & my ex sent me text messages about doing some erotic sexual acts on me. I fell a victim 2 the forbidden fruit like Adam & Eve & I went 2 her house & had sex w/her. My ex told my new girl that she'd been having sex w/me & now my new girl won't communicate w/me. I've sent flowers, but what else can I do? I really love my new girl and would like to marry her, but my ex has scared me.
2007-03-06 08:28:01 · 8 answers · asked by psychoanton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're just going to have to wait this one out and see what happens. You're making it worse by trying to persuade your new girl to trust you again. She's going to have to make that decision herself when she's ready. You should have known better than to befriend your ex, especially when you had a wonderful new girl who was obviously opposing that situation openly. Even if your ex didn't tell her, how could you deceive her, the one you call your soul mate? You made your own bed. Your ex didn't set you up. You set yourself up. This was your fault, not the ex's. Learn your lessons. Maybe next time you'll think before you act. I know it's a hard lesson to learn. Think next time.
2007-03-06 08:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you really "love" this girl you wouldn't even except any calls, texts from your ex. I know that you mentioned that you dated her for a long time, but when it is over its done. And if you decided to move on and be with your dream girl than I say you should have not let anything trigger you from your ex. Your dreamgirl has every reason to be upset. Get into her shoes. How would you like it if she had done that to you. Trust now is a big problem if your dream girl decides to accept you back into her heart. You've done a big oppsy! But I think its time for you to decide what you want in your life. Honestly ask yourself. Have you truly moved on? Do you find yourself still thinking about your ex, even if its a little. Can you see your ex with another man and be okay with it? Those are questions you have to ask yourself. You know. Be real with yourself. Do you really " love " this dreamgirl? Sex is tempting. We are humans and we all make mistakes. Try talking to your dream girl and see if she can hear your part of the story. Regardless that you say your are the " victim" you are not! You did it. And thats it. No turning back. So you now, talk to your girl. If she listens than I say you are a lucky guy if not than you lost your dreamgirl, if she decides to not listen than in the end you'll know that she truly wasn't your dreamgirl. Dont call your ex. Dont except phone calls. You dont have to explain nothing to her. Just leave as that. Move on, change phone numbers. And let time pass by. Remember to give your dreamgirl some time she too probably thinks you were her dreamboy. She is most likely hurt. Im sorry you are going through these kinds of things in life. But put your foot down. I'm being really true to you because its the truth. Good luck. Flowers, is not a good way to say Im sorry.
2007-03-06 08:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are so weak. It is unfortunate that you fell into the trap that so many women are good at setting, and believe me I don't promote deception in anyway. However, if your new girlfriend won't speak to you because of your several moments of weakness then you have to give her time and learn from your mistake. If your old girlfriend is heartbroken..tough. You have no reason to fall into her arms everytime she breaks down. It's no longer your responsibility to keep her from killing herself. Call her parents and let them know what's going on and let it go. Hopefully your "soulmate" will calm down and contact you but don't be suprised if she doesn't just learn from the experience and don't let it happen again. You were set up and a lesson learned is often painful but priceless.
2007-03-06 08:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you did cheat on her??? Well I can't say I balme the new girl. I was cheated on recently and it is the most horrible betrayal. This how you would feel had she cheated on you. Think about what you really want. If you really loved her would you have cheated on her? If you really do want to be with her, tell her how you feel and give her time to decide if she really can forgive you. It's going to take A LOT of work on your part, are you willing to do that. I wish you lots of luck!!! If you really are sorry I hope you can work it out.
2007-03-06 08:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay your ex just wants attention from you..I will just cut contact from her..and people who talk about killing themselfes are just dumb no one ever talks about it...You need to talk to your new girl and tell her that it was the biggest mistake ever.You love HER and only HER..You will have to prove you are truthful again..But me I always say once a cheater always a cheater sorry
2007-03-06 08:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by mommie2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u act trusest when ur drunk so at trueest do u just want to **** some thing well that was a bit harsh so tell ur x how u feal u new girl will listion to her
2007-03-06 08:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under no circumstances is cheating ok.
2007-03-06 08:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by Yuki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she couldnt be your soulmate if you banged your ex,,, leave her alone and more on
2007-03-06 08:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋