We are very open with everything...almost everything. I have told him in the past that I love him and then he asked what I thought love was. I explained what I felt...but he didn't say those words back. I know he does though...I see it in all that he does for and with me. How can I explain to him that even though actions speak louder than words I want to hear it sometimes.........with out being to forward about it.
2007-03-06 07:57:16 · 10 answers · asked by opiegalis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's telling you right now "I don't love you". Accept that and quit pressuring him to lie for you. If he really loved you, he'd tell you that.
2007-03-06 07:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by DarkLord_Bob 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, only he can tell you he loves you. You believing he loves you doesn't make it anymore real than a figment of your imagination. He may like you a whole bunch, but you projecting love is a relationship no no. It is pretentious, rude, and condecending to tell him that you know how he feels by his actions even though he isn't expressing it.
If you want to know how he feels, talk to the boy. Chances are, he knows the weight of all those words like love and doesn't throw it around like a circus whore like most people do today of the younger generations. Just shut up and let him talk. Accept what he says as his emotions and move forward in the relationship.
Or...
If you want love and he isn't giving it, dump him. If he isn't ready for what you have to offer, then he isn't what you are looking for. Trust me, when a man loves a woman, he shouts it off every mountain top. The fact that he isn't should be a clear sign that he is not, I repeat, not in love with you.
2007-03-06 16:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my b/f (5 years together) has told me he loves me maybe 15 times all together, but everyday, he shows me he loves me just by the little things he does.
Like right now im sick, he cooked last night, cleaned up, put the kids to bed (they are not his kids) and took very good care of me. Did he say "i love you" no but more so than that, I felt it.
Yes we all like to hear the words and I do tell him otherwise I would have never hear it 15 times. I simply tell him
"honey, I love you and I know you love me, will you tell me you love me" I leave it at that and within a day or so he will tell me.
He won't tell me right after I ask him cause he don't think it means anything that way.
I don't ask him to tell me often cause well, I respect that he thinks they are just words and don't mean a whole lot if you say it all the time.
2007-03-06 16:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, let me get this straight. You want a guy to open up about his feelings. A guy. Um. yeah. See, the thing is, guys are prevented from showing true feelings because of DNA, the media, cholesterol, receding hair lines, diminished real estate value, and McDonalds food. the only thing that works is alcohol. Ply him with some Southern Comfort.
2007-03-06 16:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by steven_p_ohio 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell him straight out that you want to hear it - if you are honest in your relationship you need to be forward about it. But be prepared - some people don't open up well verbally and it might not happen. Or else, he doesn't really feel it and hasn't been able to tell you yet. If it's important to you, then you need to take the risk.
2007-03-06 16:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, does it make you feel good when I tell you I love you....
... Yes
I would like that feeling every now and then too.
2007-03-06 15:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by sassinya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you just have to be straight forward and just ask him if he loves you.
2007-03-06 15:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by dreamangel1102002 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him if he loves you.
2007-03-06 15:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him if he loves you. simply say " do you love me". if he says yes.... then well he's the guy.....if he says no......well you know what to do.
2007-03-06 16:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by ~Blondie~ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just ask him.... your not pushing or pressuring him you need to know when your alone together just ask him.........good luck
2007-03-06 16:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by lysa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋