What do i do?

Question

I am in a small preforming group at my school. me and the mebers are forced to spend alot of time together. I was very close friends with the people in it but over a rather long period of time i began to realise how different i was from them, i valued diferent things then them, also they had a habit of acting supitior to me, i don't understand why i'm not bad at it and my GPA is alot highter then theirs so i'm not stupid not to a shove the fact that my grades are better in their face becaue i'm not that kind of person (pehaps it's because i look younger then them) Anyway they could be really rude and hurtful so i decideed to stop the friendship because it was really making my life misrable. it wasn't good but after i felt like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders
but now i have to spen alot of time with them acting like they are really cool asnd better than me and it once again is as misrabble as it was before. i can not quit because i love doing it so much

we don't really argue except for little agruments but they say and do little things that are really mean and just make me upset. I have trieds to talk to them but they see that they have done nothing wrong and they didn't understand why i didn't want to be friends with them and are mad at me for starting drama

Answer 1

They are NOT better than u and u DONT have to act that way.

U are in the performing group because u enjoy it, not because u like them.
They're probably jealous of u.

There are always sad people like them, I am involved in a club where there are jealous, pathetic people too, but I ignore them.I used to get upset by it.

Just 'pass' them , I mean say hi, do what u have to do But remember they're not people who u want to be close friends with, they are not deserving of your friendship, so privately laugh at their jealous immature little attempts to act superior to u.

Remember people who act superior usually feel inferior.
Paul

Answer 2

ohmigod *hugs katie*
If you really want to be in this club then you'll have to deal with them. If I were you, I'd confront them about it and ask them why they're acting that way, and ask them to stop. You know, "hey guys, why do you always act so weird? You seem to be really pompous somtimes" or something along the lines of that. They have no right to treat you that way at all.

If you can, drag some of your friends into this thing to back you up and so you won't be so alone, unless it's one of those clubs you have to qualify for.

And if nothing works and these people keep making your life very miserable, quit, because after some point bein in that club won't be worth it. If you can, form your own club where you can still do what you love and not have to deal with these people.

Of course, you can always try a teacher or some other official at the school, if you think they can do something.

I hope that helps!

Answer 3

Wow, it looks like you have a hard problem to solve here.

Make peace. Make a treaty, SOMETHING that will keep you from fighting. I mean, the only reason they act cooler than you is because they're jealous! No joke.

Maybe because you are a lot smarter (you said you had a higher GPA) and maybe you're young looks make them green with envy.

Answer 4

Don't let yourself get wrapped up in their drama. If you love the performing and can't find another group to perform with, work with them, but keep it stricktly professional and don't expect them to be nice. You know the deal. you can't change them. Either accept that and keep on working or move on and get away from them. if they make you miserable, talk to you parents about how you might be able to find another way to perform. Community theatre, local singing or dance teachers or schools, starting your own group at school, all could be other options for you.

Answer 5

Part of growing up is learning to work closely with people you may not get along with. You'll face this situation many times in life. You just focus on the goal at hand, pay to attention to the personal stuff, and go on with your life.

Answer 6

interesting situation. my best advice is just to leave those people alone completely. i know that this is hard to do since you spend so much time together, but they're no good for you. sometimes its a good thing to go solo. it makes you a better person. plus, isnt there any other cliques in your performing group? its not hard to make freinds you know.

Answer 7

You can quit. It is your choice to stay because you love doing it. If there isn't a similar group elsewhere in your community, you will either have to live with their attitudes or quit. It's not worth doing if the others involved make things miserable for you.

Answer 8

Just do what you love, the show must go on!

Just think, that after this performance, they (or you) may realize how uncomfortable you guys are around each other. They (or you) will leave. Or, you can tell them that I don't like you, you don't like me, but we've got to get along until the show is over.

Answer 9

Pull them aside, tell them how you feel, ask why they act the way they do, see if you're doing something to make them mad, try to come to some type of compromise.

Answer 10

you know, you should just find some other people in your acting group to hang out with and if they say something to you, then just ignore them. or just act superior to them and let the see how it feels.