I'm 18 and just moved several hundred miles away to live with my friend and his family. My parents moved me all of this country and this is where I felt most comfortable, so after graduation I moved back, and have been living here for a month now. I just got a job and will be starting at the end of next week (mcdonalds). The problem is, this move is what I thought I wanted, but now I just feel very confused in a depressed kind of way. I'm not sure whether to bite the bullet and go back home, or stick it out and hope for things to get better. I thought the privacy and freedom would be great, but its not all its cracked up to be. Right now I'm staying at my friends house, cleaning up the kitchen, the house, tending to the dog... I'm hoping to feel better once I get working, but it's tough, I'll have to walk a mile and a half to work every morning. I didn't expect to want to go home this bad. Its not like they treated me horrible. There's a question in all this rambling, please find it.
2007-03-06 07:11:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I have a 16 year old son and I know he keeps saying he cannot wait for his first apartment when he turns 18. Me- I already cry thinking about it! He is my only child and I love him more than life itself. Your mom and dad will ALWAYS be there for you no matter what. Its really hard to go out on your own. Ive told my son over and over no matter what happens- no matter where u are- you can always find a safety net right here with me and your home! Its always open to him. Just because our kids turn 18 doesnt mean we stop being parents! When your parents were 18 Im SURE they went back home atleast once themselves! WE ALL HAVE DONE IT! Wouldnt u rather be with YOUR family then someone elses family? Call your mom- let her know how u feel sweetheart- tell her u r home sick and miss them so much and I promise you she will welcome you back with open arms! Because she has to be missing you in her life extremely badly! Good luck!
2007-03-06 08:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question's clear enough. Do you stick with it or go home. 1 month is too soon to go home. It's bound to take you a while to find your feet. It could take several months maybe even a year but things will improve.
People often think that moving is a method of solving their problems, sometimes it is. At 18 lots of people are beginning to feel ready to assert their independance. You did a brave things moving so far from home, so you can't run back to mummy and daddy when things get a little tricky. But it sounds like you're doing fine, it's a big scary world out there and sometimes we all need the reassurance of our parents. I nearly 43, married and have kids and I know I still do, we live in different countries but I called them today because I have a bad arm and feel a bit low. But it doesn't matter where you move to, how far you go, there's one thing that doesn't chance. Life is full of mundane tasks, and day to day problems and anxieties, you'll have those wherever you are. if you go back to your parents they go with you, and you go with you. Make sure it's not yourself you are trying to get away from because that can't be done, however far you go.
Call your mum, tell her you love her, have a cry if you need to then get back to it. Things will be different when you start working, it'll give you something else to focus on. A month is too soon to give up.
Good luck
2007-03-06 07:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd stick it out a bit longer. However, you are probably more qualified than the traditional McDonald's employee.You may want to try enrolling in a community college so you can better yourself and make more money in the long run. It's only been a month, so I wouldn't go running back home yet, unless you are planning on school.
2007-03-06 07:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you bit off more than you can chew ! My advice would be to call your parents and tell them how you feel, then go from there. I'm sure your parents would like to have you home and on a better track ! Living with a friend, and working at Mcdonalds does not sound like a very good future !
2007-03-06 07:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by g_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will get better for you! I felt the same way when I moved out, and I only moved 20 miles away! lol!! I had just had a baby, and knew it was my responsibility to take care of him. If I were you, which I'm not, so you don't have to take my advice, but I would stick it out. You have to live your life at some point. Things will get better I promise. Just don't mix with the wrong crowd. Good Luck to you!
2007-03-06 07:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by Manda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your family, friends and perhaps see if this job will make you feel better, mcdonald's tend to promote fast as there is a high turnover so u could be earning more money within a few months. make a list of positvie and negative things about staying and try to decide.
Good luck :)
2007-03-06 07:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by pettra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a big change and it will have it's ups and downs. There is a sense of loss whenever you make big changes and you miss certain things. But this is temporary. And also, if you have goals for the future, something to work towards it helps. Having a job is great, but what are you working for? What's next?
2007-03-06 07:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you feel confused now.Its the first time you've been on your own.Its completely normal.No matter where you go you would probably feel that way.Stay strong you can always go back if it gets to rough.But you never know you might find that in time it was the best decision you ever made.I would say give it time.If it gets too hard than go home.No matter what listen to your heart it will never lie to you.But also believe in yourself.The best wishes to you,Good luck.Keep your chin up.
2007-03-06 07:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by cynomynG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it's fun being an adult, isn't it? All freedom, and nobody telling you what to do.
I'd say stick with it. It will be good practise for the next 50 years or so that you have ahead of you.
2007-03-06 07:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick it out, you'll thank yourself later. If you don't develop your independence now, you'll never figure out who you really are and what great things you are capable of doing on your own. Just keep yourself safe and remember you have to make grown up decisions. No one is going to care about you more than you.
2007-03-06 07:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by XJlyBeanX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋