everytime he's at work he looks at this site, i've seen the logs but he doesn't know that. when i ask him he denies it, this really annoys me i'm fed up of giving him the oppertunity to come clean but he says he doesn't look.. so why is he not telling the truth.
2007-03-06 07:08:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
everytime he's at work he looks at this site, i've seen the logs but he doesn't know that. when i ask him he denies it, this really annoys me i'm fed up of giving him the oppertunity to come clean but he says he doesn't look.. so why is he not telling the truth. but..we look together so whats the difference.
2007-03-07 01:01:46 · update #1
He's probably embarrassed and thinks it will hurt you. Just because he looks at porn is no reflection on you - try not to take it personally.
2007-03-06 20:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Lou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl! What made you check the logs anyways? I mean, do you not trust him or what? It sounds like you are really insecure. You are scared of being hurt. When you are doing all this "digging" you are hurting yourself more than anyone else could. When you come out and ask your boyfriend like that, it probably really embarrasses him and puts him on the spot. There's nothing wrong with porn, and you probably even make him feel guilty when you ask him like that. The best way for him to come "clean" is to let the relationship be open by not making such a deal over things like this. The boy is probably scared to talk to you! How can he feel comfortable to talk to you if you don't have an open mind or heart? How about this: Go rent a porn that you think you'll both like. Next time you guys have an evening together or whenever a good time for you is, pop that sucker in and let the good times roll. It's natural that a man feels turned on by this sort of thing. Men are more visual. Why not "let" him include you in something he really likes? Good Luck.
2007-03-14 06:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by starbucks4jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, i have totally been in the same situation and as my bf told me, yeah fair enough if you know that he looks at porn but he doesnt want you bringing it up everytime you have found out that he has. Every male looks at some form of porn, its totally natural, the only thing i was annoyed about is that i wasnt involved and i felt like he would rather atch other girls etc than be doing sexual stuff with me, some guys dont even look at it do anything to, some just get bored and its a way of passing the time etc, most guys though gets ideas for what they can try on their partners although they wont admit to that as its embarrassing to them. But hun dont treat it like a big deal, you know he looks at it, he knows you know, why not watch a movie together? x
2007-03-13 08:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by MICHELLE T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it seems that your partner not coming clean is the issue and not the fact that he likes porn?
Perhaps it is because the 'flavour' of porn he enjoys is somewhat different to the type that you and he can 'enjoy' together - rather like two people liking ice but one prefers strawberry to the others' chocolate...
The best thing to do is not to make too big an issue out of it since it does NOT have to be a shared experience - some things are best enjoyed on their own and perhaps it is that which upsets you?
2007-03-12 13:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some guys don't like to admit they watch porn. they find it embarrasing or think they'll be looked at like they're dirty or sick. in actual fact, it's quite a healthy thing to do, and it can be a real turn-on for some people.
but he isn't the only one being dishonest, love, is he? if you don't like the fact that he watches porn, then he's obviously taken that into consideration, only watching it when he's ouf the house at work. By not telling him that you've seen the logs so you know he watches it, you've set him a trap he can't help but fall into. why not just tell him you know and ask him why he watches it. i guarantee you it's not cos he doen't find you attractive or anything like that, but purel because he's embarassed about it.
my partner and i watch soft porn together on occasion, to get things heated up a littl; it's a great stimulant.
2007-03-12 08:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is looking at porn when he is at work on a works computer he will be found out ! Tell him this and say to him that you can both look at it together at home. Good luck x
2007-03-14 10:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Isis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys deny it. I don't like my partner looking at it at all so he gets a clip round the earhole when I check his history (yes, I am sad and check what he gets up to - all girlies do that). He gets so fed up with me nagging he doesn't bother. He says he isn't that interested anyway but hey, if he has a pulse and a wotnot, he is liking the naky girloids.
2007-03-13 17:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By looking at it with him you are sending him a message that it ok with you.Maybe he lies about looking because he doesnt want you to know he is doing it with out you.He may be having some sexual desires when you are not there so he views the site for some relief..
2007-03-10 11:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by annie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. we are men !!!!...so please girls....do not get upset or pissed
off on the fact that we watch porn...for if you did not know it ....
well, now you know..it !!!!...it is in our nature to watch it...and
yes..we watch it most of the times alone , many times with our
friends and yes..we feel embarassed to admit it, that we watch it..or that we like it.....so please NEVER confront us about this.....because we are gonna lie to you ALWAYS !!! saying that we were not watching that !!.
and we'll love you even more ,if you ignore that you just
caught us watching porno, and say something as if
nothing has happened....along these lines....
( hun, can go to the mall ?, I am going to store need something ?, have you seen my car keys ?,
have you found any good deals on e-bay ?
looking for good deals for our next vaccation ?
hun...do you think I look fat ?
hun..when did you say......(whatever comes to mind at moment ...if none of above mentioned fit ) ?
or..hun, when are you gonna fix/paint / finish..etc..??
THANK YOU FOR ACTING THIS WAY !!
no wonder why we love you so much .....lol
.
2007-03-14 06:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason he isnt telling u cause he thinks that u might look at him in a different light. he might think "oh if she knows i'm watching porn she'll get mad at me" or " she is gonna think im perverted and even though i might want her to do some of these things with her she wont understand"
2007-03-14 06:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by Romeo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋