I would just keep myself busy either with friends or doing the family thing. Through my own experience I found that when having relationship problems it was best for me to go out with my friends and get my mind off of things because if I don't then I will sit at home and stare at the phone. Chances are after debating whether to call or not you probably will and you cannot give in. You will either push her away or she will think that you are her doormat and probably treat you badly if she takes you back because of your persistence. Good Luck!
2007-03-06 07:01:36
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answered by angie v 1
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First of all delete her number of your phone - you can always make a note of it elsewhere. Then you will avoid the temptation of texting her (hopefully you dont know the number off by heart). Secondly - write a brief notelet saying that you are sorry that it had to come to this but you truely need time out' to sort your head out. Try and have a break of routine to your norm' and keep yourself occupied. Hopefully then you may have more of a direction in your life. If at this stage you then want to try to get back with her - and she wants you back, then you can try and re-unite what you once had. Good for you for accepting the situation that things were not right and you needed a break before further committment was made. Hope you sort yourself out though.
2007-03-06 08:01:07
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answered by deep in thought 4
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No one likes to be smothered, if you start making yourself look desperate it will be a turn off for her. Either that or she will think she can walk all over you because you'll take anything. Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder, lay low and play it by ear. Maybe, what you think now is breaking your heart is the best thing that could have happened for you. Tomorrow is a new day and a lot of good things can happen. Get going with your friends, don't sit around and dwell on this. All of us, at one time or another, had a boyfriend or girlfriend that broke up with us and we thought it was the end of the world. Little did we know, there was going to be someone better for us, in due time.
2007-03-06 07:10:54
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answered by Anonymous
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every time you want to text her instead of texting write the message down and try and think how she feels about the situation ask Friends and people for information they may be able to give you but don't come across as being desperate insteed let them know that you are concerned that she is OK and don't pester them if they don't want to give you information
in the end when you get her back or don't as the case may be you find somebody new give her the text you where going to send her an have a long hard laugh about the situation and remember that there are millions of people out there who are in the same boot as you
All the best
2007-03-06 07:11:33
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answered by Tonny C 1
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You don't need to text her or call her. You need time to sort things out do so on your own...this will give her time too which i good for both of you should you decide to get back together just call her up and see what happens. Just be honest, don't think that by continuously texting her during this time she's still your girl. You broke up fro a reason...deal with the reason and then whatevr happens happens. From experience...I was devastated when my and my BF broke up, it made no sense and no real reason, anyhow eventually I understood and I moved on, I was happy cuz it reminded me alot of what i had lost in myself too. Anyhow he moved on too but we both realized that we loved eachother and got back togetehr very naturally like we never skipped a beat. Let life take it's course. Take care of yours;ef for now.
2007-03-06 07:02:51
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answered by shayshay 3
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Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/Qlwgj
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-26 16:11:35
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answered by ? 3
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when i was trying to give up cigarettes i found the first couple of weeks very hard and felt that it was all too easy to relapse and revert back to being a smoker.15 months on and the craving has all but disappeared,i find only very rarely when out with friends that i could quite easily light up.The first few weeks of not being in a relationship can feel very daunting but in time the need to text your ex will fade.you have stated that you need to sort yourself out first before you can commit to a relationship so concentrate on that and maybe find a Hobie to do to take your mind off the temptation.the easy answer is to delete her number from your phone,that's if you have the strength and willpower to do it.............good luck.
2007-03-06 07:08:20
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answered by sarah y 3
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Sorry, I got the same problem with my husband - except he needs to sort himself out. I agree that harassing them will push them away. It all will have to depend on who did the splitting up, are feelings mutual, etc. If you did the breaking up then you have the most hope, just take it easy, but do let her know that you are interested still and am trying to sort yourself out as well. Maybe letting her know that you could do with her support to sort your ways will help.
I hope you can get better advice from other answerers here.
Good luck.
2007-03-06 07:03:31
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answered by Kanst 3
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Focus on something else for a while. You did say you need to sort yourself out, just work on that. You can send her the occasional text asking how she is, but as you say, your priority is sorting yourself out. Now get focused. Review your feelings for her in a few months, they may have changed.
2007-03-06 07:50:40
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answered by Orla C 7
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definitely keep busy, that's the most important thing. Stepping back from the situation and taking some time for yourself is a good way to get perspective. Maybe take a weekend away to go hiking or something...just to get time to think is key.
2007-03-06 07:03:30
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answered by Jesus Christ Track Starrr 2
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