I am ptty sure who the father is but there's still small chance. the screwed up thing about this is, I got pregnant while me and my husband we're going through a divorce. I am in love with the person i think i got pregnant by but, i hate telling him that this is his baby only to find out 9 months down the road that it is actually my ex-husbands. We kinda had this thing for about a week, also about 5 days before i got pregnant. and then i was back with this other guy from then on. I just wanna know that i am not the only one going through this. I feel like a horrible person, kinda sluttish. And I hate that.
2007-03-06 06:42:49 · 10 answers · asked by Brittany Jo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I can't say I have been through your situation but I just wanted to say I'm sorry things are so rough for you!!
Is the hopeful father (not your ex-husband) aware of his situation or have you been keeping it from him? If you have been keeping it a secret I would definitely let him in on it. It will be a very hard thing to discuss, but it's better for him to know of the possibility that he may not be the father before the baby arrives. Just explain to him that you screwed up, and if he is worth keeping around he will hopefully be understanding.
I wish you the best of luck! Try not to stress yourself out too much, it's not good for you or baby (easier said then done, I know)
Take care :)
2007-03-06 06:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by leenajoyce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me. I had been off/on with my boyfriend for a year and a half and one night I had a down moment and ended up doing stuff with another guy and it happened one other time a week later, then from that time on I was back with my boyfriend, had never done anything like that before and ended up finding out I was pregnant a month later. I told my boyfriend who knew about the other guy. There was a much higher chance that it was my boyfriends than the other guy so I didn't tell the other guy, but when the baby came it was definitely my boyfriends. I know that maybe I should have told the other guy just in case. Its better to be honest, but I know what you mean you don't want one thinking he could possibly be a father and then 9 months later he's not.
2007-03-06 06:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say I have been in that position, but you can't beat yourself up for it. We make mistakes sometimes. I would talk to the boyfriend and let him know the situation, if he loves you he will be supportive.
Just know you are not sluttish, you are not a horrible person. I can say I have gone back and slept with my ex husband before, that is just one of those things I think a lot of divorced couples do. You just happened to get pregnant one way or the other. Just don't bring yourself down because of it, there is nothing in life that can't be handled, you will be fine.
Congrats on your baby
2007-03-06 06:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kathleen R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well I'm kind of in the same situation. My husband was in jail fro 5 months and we broke up before he went to jail. i started dating my high school buddy and we got pretty close. we dated for 5 months and we both realized we where better off as friends. i am currently 7 1/2 or 32 weeks pregnant and my due date always changes when i got to the doctor so i will not know till i give birth. the only positive side is one guy is black and the other is white. that should help me out a lot! but it shouldn't make you feel sluttish....**** happens! and it's only between two men. but i completely understand how you feel. and it's not fare to both guys, but everything happens for a reason. And I'm back with my husband, so I'm praying for a all white baby.
2007-03-06 06:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by bubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that divorces are nasty... one of my family members is on thier fifth.... However, If you truely love/care about someone you would not share something so intimate as sex with another person.
You need to be honest with both men, it's not fair to lie to either one of them, a baby is not something to use to your advantage, it's a little person, and when that little person grows up, there could potentially be a lot of hate directed towards you if you lie about this situation.
As far as the relationship you are in now... maybe you should spend some alone time with your mind and decide if you really love this guy.
If you think i'm full of crap.. just stop and put yourself in your ex-husbands shoes... imagine how you would feel if the situation were reversed... and do the same for other potential father.
2007-03-06 06:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by K. A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i am gonna be completely honest with you and please dont look bad upon my sister for this but all three of her kids have different fathers and she didnt know the father until she gave birth and did a paternity test on the men she had been with. While she was pregnant she was completely honest with the potenial fathers and let them know that when the baby is born they will know for sure. Her kids are dearly loved even though the father of my nephew is unwilling to participate in his life they are all loved dearly. So i guess i am suggesting that you let them know the possiblities no one is perfect!
2007-03-06 06:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stress about it! You screwed up, as I am sure many people have, otherwise, they wouldn't have come up with paternity tests (Anna Nicole, anybody).
Seriously though, if the guy you are with now is an understanding person, then be up front with him now! As soon as the baby is born, or if you fall into the category of women who need amnios, have a test done. If it is your ex's, get child support, since you obviously broke up with him for a reason, give him visitation, and let the man you are with be daddy at all other times!
Good Luck
2007-03-06 06:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there and done that, It is hard to get attached to a pregnancy when you have doubts but it will all work out in the end, whether you get the father you want or not, I was lucky and the baby was my boyfriends at the time, but man, it sure was scary! Hang in there, hope for the best and love your baby no matter what.Good luck!
2007-03-06 06:47:37 · answer #8 · answered by ♥It's a boy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you should let them know ahead of time. if you hold back they might get attached only to be broken hearted. and you break the heart of the one you want to be with and he may not forgive you. if you tell them ahead of time there is no surprise, they can both prepare themselves.
2007-03-06 06:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shouldnt have been creepin
2007-03-06 06:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by west side rider 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋