My asian mom can't speak very well and it embarrasses me?

Question

I'm half chinese. My mom is asian and my dad is white. when friends come over they make fun of the way she talks because she cant speak english very well. one time my friend even threw a set of chopsticks at her. what should i do?

Answer 1

I'd get new friends. And the one who threw chopsticks I would beat ten shades of brown stuff out of.

Answer 2

You need to work on yourself first---because I noticed you
said "my asian mom"...do you have another? She is (i assume)
your biological mom, and it shouldn't matter that she is anything
other than your mom. I suspect you are going through some discomfort yourself, not sure where or how you fit in. And, if you are gay (or lesbian) it can compound your situation.

You need to embrace both your parent's "heritage" and love, protect, cherish and obey them as much as possible.
If they won't accept you as gay (or lesbian) or the choices you make, then maybe you need to assert yourself, but never stop loving them. They won't be here forever, and you should try to
enjoy and value them as much as you can.

The fact is: you define who you are and what you are and
you have a unique mission. If I were you, I would talk to
those friends and ask them if they would be willing go to
China and try and communicate in Chinese. You mom made a lot of sacrifices coming here: it required great courage and faith and
love. I would also tell the one who threw chopsticks how it made you feel if you value the friendship. But I also agree that if you find nothing redeeming in your friends, get new friends!

But violence is not the answer. Gandhi was a religious leader
in india who started a hunger strike and nonviolent protest
against the corrupt and harsh treatment by English colonialists.
He said "You must be the change you wish to see in the world".
Violence does not solve anything and always plants seeds of
resentment. Instead of being violent, why not take some time to
ponder how you could improve the situation by dialogue and
building trust,

You have been blessed with great parents (though you might not always see it.) Don't sell them or yourself short. You know all
racism is based in ignorance, fear and jealousy. You can change things for the better, if you wish. But start by loving and accepting
yourself. Then love and accept your parents, realizing they are
human also, and can make mistakes. Then teach and love
your friends. Peace!

Answer 3

What should you do?

1) Ask this in the correct category. This has nothing to do with LGBT issues, unless you or your mom is gay.

2) If people you have over insult your parents, they are not your friends. Perhaps you could break the ice before they arrive by saying, "My mother's first language is Chinese and she's still a little rough with English. So be nice to her, OK? You don't want her calling you bad names in Chinese behind your back! :o) "

Answer 4

You should get some new friends and how dare you let your so call friend do that. If some one would have done that to my mom i would have beat the hell out of them. Come on that's your mom the women who gave you birth and who takes care of you when your sick. To be honest with you she is your only true friend just wait till you have your own children. Don't be ashamed of your mother or who she speaks just know that she will never turn her back on you and that the way you treat your mom is the way your children will treat you.

Answer 5

I totally agree with the first answer. How could you be friends with any one who treats your mother like this? How disrespectful. She's your mom, she gave birth to you. Learn to appreciate her, and don't tolerate "friends" that don't respect her, because by disrespecting her, they are also disrespecting you.

Personally, I would love to have some one else in my family that was fluent in another language. I would trade places with you in minute, and learn her language and cultures. You can also help her to understand English too, if she wishes, instead of being embarrassed by her, appreciate who she is. You only get one mom. In the grand scheme of things, this is such a trivial matter for you to be embarrassed over. Other people have it far worse than you do...other people have had mom's who emotionally and physically abuse them. You need to be greatful for what you have.

Answer 6

Get better friends. They threw something at your mom? That would be an asskicking from me and I don't even like my Mom that much.

Be PROUD of your heritage.

My best friend's wife is half-Korean and her mom talks the same way. We always joked in a positive manner about this, like her name for the local shopping mall called Westroads-she says Westymall-it's cute.

Answer 7

Tell off the friends who made fun of her. She is your mother, the woman who gave birth to you. Family should always come first. Help her improve her English skills with some speech or even flash cards to help learn the sounds and pronunciation

Answer 8

First, your one time friend should be apologizing now. From there
think you should find new friends, and like them know that you
don't care if they are Half-Irish or whatever, if they can't respect your
home and family, they don't respect you so keep looking. Believe
it or not, there are human beings around you that would be pleased
to have you as a friend.and the feeling will flow both ways.

Answer 9

First, I would beat the you know what out of the one that threw the chopsticks. Man, don't ever let anyone diss your mom like that. That is not cool. Find better friends. they are out there.

Answer 10

first of all that is your mother and she probably loves you very very much...so you should never be embarrassed by her. Second you should never allow them to mock your mother like that...that is ridiculous, I would kick them out of my house and tell them not to come back until they wanted to make a sincere apology to my mother, and to me. Third I would help your friends become better people by making them realize how frivolous it is to mock other people, it gets you nowhere. Hate breeds hate, so if they keep it up they will be hated, and thats not so fun. And I would also encourage and help my mother to learn better english all the while....because that is what families do, they build one another up and make each other better...