I have been with my ex for four years. We recently broke up because he cheated on me for the second time. He made up whatever lie he could to cover his *** so i wouldnt find out but the girl eventually told me herself. He has been cheating on me since day one i told him that i was pregnant. He hasnt put to much time into me while i have been pregnant but tells all his friends that hes going to be there. All he has done is hang out and party and cheat and ignored me. He has only been to two doctor appoinments ( im 6months) I realized that he is a liar and I want to protect me son from what i went throguht when i was young with the lies from my father. I dont doubt that he will love his son but I dont want my son hurtlike I have been for months. Am i wrong for wanting this
2007-03-06 06:11:40 · 2 answers · asked by tiffany j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How you treat the mother of your childern says alot about how your going to treat your kids. Its apparent that what ever he considers love doesn't mean he puts himself in second. Or lets just say he is showing that he has a lot more love for himself then the outside world. Classic low self-esteem. But just keep in mind that being a father is acully harder then being a husban/partner and he can't even do that right. So yea take it away atleast then you'll be in control and not him. As far as cheating goes that is the surest way of knowing when someone really loves you or not. Making love is so much better then causal sex and only a person who hasn't had it wouldn't know that... and it would seem he hasn't had it yet.. no offense I'm pretty sure you guys are great sex partners. But making love has little to do with what you do, but how you do it. If he really loved you he wouldn't be cheating and if he really loved the kiddo he love you. Its the natural think, its humans that have a habbit of perversing the whole thing. Sorry to say this guy needs sometime to grow-up but your going to get to see his growth or lack of it thru-out the next 18+ years. Good luck, no one teaches us that the biggest rule to the game of love is: Be Damn Careful Who You Love!
2007-03-07 03:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a bad situation. Do you have family that can be there for you in this stressful time? Your ex doesn't have the commitment to being a father.All the things you do from now on should be with the idea that you can't depend on him. If he suddenly wants to get back with you (for a very short time, judging from how much he has cheated on you), are you going to try to believe that means something? If you want to protect yourself and your son from hurt, you will have to learn to not expect anything from this guy. I'm sorry he's the one who got you pregnant. Now you should face parenthood with all of that in mind. Be strong, think of things that will make it easier for you to stand alone and be a strong supportive single parent to your child, with the occasional rare visit from his dad.
2007-03-09 20:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋