My 1 year old baby girl is leaving w/my hubby tomorrow to to visit her grandfather and other family in Florida. I am unable to go because my older daughter has school as well as myself (midterms) She will be back in 5 days. I have never been away from her. What can I do to keep myself from crying all the time? I am so worried about how my husband will do by himself. I am tryinjg to remember everything before he leaves....Please any advice will be helpful!! Thank you!! ie She will be flying for the first time.
2007-03-06 05:51:01 · 18 answers · asked by Jm 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I am not asking for criticizing, I am asking for advice on how to help through it.
2007-03-06 05:56:51 · update #1
I feel for you and think that you are being a terrific mother for letting your baby go with her father for the week. I can understand how heartbreaking this week will be. Tell your husband that you are going to call him often so that he expects it, I don't think he is going to be bothered by it. I am sure he understands how worried you are. Then call whenever you need to. This will be a great week to study your heart out so that you can spend extra time next week with your whole family.
Your daughter will do great on the airplane ride. Sticker books are great for the airplane, as well as coloring books. Also remember to have her wear shoes that are easy for her to get on and off as she goes through security. Your husband can hold her as she goes through, she will not have to go through alone.
Best of luck to you and your husband. I think that you will be glad when it is over, but also glad your daughter got to see her grandparents!
2007-03-06 06:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by serendipity_siren 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared that the baby will need you and you want be there , father have the same instincts as a mother he will look after that child like she is made of gold , you try and think of the way you will feel when she returns, absents does make the heart grow founder because of the fact that our kids must leave us is a part of life, if you settle yourself know and understand that the really big day is going to come when she leaves with her kids and husband and start her own life, you will know you done a good job if you concentrate on doing your best to finish school, because that's what she will remember in time to come right now she doesn't know what's really going on , she must know her family on his side and going should give you time to lavish on you remaining child love her and keep her safe so when your husband and baby return you both will have more to talk about than the fact they were gone.
2007-03-06 14:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by sweetbooty 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is hard, I know. Call her every night before bed and just listen to her for a bit....that will help a lot! Also, it helps to use the time to catch up on stuff around the house...keep busy in other words! LOL! 5 days will go by faster than you think and it will be a great opportunity to spend some good one-on-one quality time with your older daughter....I bet she would love that. Just remember that being away from your kids is hard, but it just makes the coming home that much sweeter! Good luck!
2007-03-06 14:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by emrobs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have went through the same thing recently, and I will admit it was a little hard. It helps a little to remember that any parent needs a break once in a while, and just look at it as a time to get yourself back together. Treating yourself to a movie or a nice massage wouldn't be a bad idea. You can focus more on your studies too.
You mentioned that you have another child still in school and this would be a great time to spend time with them. Whether it be watching a movie together or sitting down and playing games.
It will be ok and they will be back before you know it----hope this helps
2007-03-06 13:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write down your daughter regular daily routine. This will help your husband to stick to familiar things for your daughter. and this will also be better for your daughter. Get your husband to call at the same time every night just before bedtime. You can then go to bed with a smile as you heard all the fun your daughter did during the day.
2007-03-06 15:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by HAH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to relax, she will be fine. You know that your husband loves her and will take care of her. My husband took my kids on a trip when they were three and I know how this feels. I was worried to death at first but I was able to relax when i thought about it and how I knew that he would never let anything happen to them. Take this time to spend some quality time with your older child and call your husband often so you can get updates on how your baby is doing.
2007-03-06 14:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to take this time to enjoy time alone with your older child, it has been a long time since you have been alone together and she will really enjoy the attention. your husband will be more responsible for your youngest than ever just like when we become mothers. he will have his parents on hand to help out with any tricky situations. keep calling him and speaking to the baby as much as you feel you need to. and try to remember that this is not forever and that the two of them will be back real soon . so you can look forward to lots of hugs when they get back
2007-03-06 14:03:47 · answer #7 · answered by mum of 2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep in mind that she is in the best of hands with her father. You should also call everyday to put your mind at ease. There is no way to prevent you from crying as it is going to happen anyway. Keep your focus on the older child as much as you can. Keep in contact and the five days will go by before you know it. Thank you and good luck.
2007-03-06 13:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by cookie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being worried is not a bad thing. Be as worried as you want...check on her as often as you want. You are Mommy so whatever feels right...by all means...do it. I'm not a mommy but I am the daddy of a 1 year old and I wouldn't let anybody tell me I was being unreasonable. As far as getting through it...just look forward to her smile when she first lays her eyes on you in 5 days.
2007-03-06 14:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by wyttrash666 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. No way I could get through that. I can barely leave my son for three hours, I've only done it once.
You could try this:
http://www.directlyfromnature.com/RescueRemedy.htm
It works really well at calming the nerves. And get a good long distance plan and call often.
(Don't forget a bottle for take off and landing, or cup. Sucking stops ear pain. As does chewing, but it is easier to get little ones to swallow)
2007-03-06 14:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋