I'm going to get a little philisophical......?

Question

Being gay, do you ever feel as though you have more insight into the larger scheme of things? the world? life? When I read the questions of people that have such a hatred and ignorance towards us, I can't help but feel sorry for them. They are missing the big picture. Sometimes I feel as though I have been given insight that other people don't seem to have. I realize that there are always going to be different kinds of people. Black, white, asian, hispanic, gay, straight. It doesn't matter who you are, everyone is unique and special. God created everyone different for a reason. We may never know why, but it does it really matter? Sometimes I feel like I'm ahead of my time; like I belong in another time, somewhere in the future; where people have just accepted things as they are. Why is it so hard for people to understand that there doesn't need to be an explanation for why people are they way there are? Why can't they accept that this is the way things are and run with it?

Answer 1

I think in a way it does ... when someone is constantly dumped by ignorance, it kinda forces you to have some humility and be a bigger person ... and there is insight in that


I want you to know that there are straight men in the world that dont care what you do with your sex life in your spare time, we just dont make loud statements about it ... I'm sure you already knew that, but I just wanted to say it

I think the key to happiness is this life is finding your truth and living your dreams ... and that is not exclusive to being gay ... all walks of life can experience the freedom and insight you are feeling

Answer 2

Well now, I'm pleased to see that I am not alone but one of many when it comes to this gift. A gift is what I see my homosexuality as. Something that so sets me apart that, as you say, allows me to see the world as it could be and more to the point should be. I too have always felt this undeniable thought that somehow I belong in another time or era.

As you note, we are acutely aware of the problems which society faces in regards to hatred, bigotry and ignorance. Such is the burden of the gay man, that we can see what man can become but pities man for not seeing what is so clear to us.

Truly sad, but there is hope, always there is hope, after all, we're not only still here but we are more involved in making the changes and helping those need it, to move forward and not backward.

Pappy sadly is a lost cause and we must weep for him........truly sad.

Answer 3

I tend to agree with you. May lesbian/gay people have spent many years trying or pretending to be someone else. We know what it is like to see the world through another person's eyes.

Many of us have spent years of introspection, weighing the worth of our inner selves against the worth of our outer appearances. I think when a lesbian/gay person really wants to know her/himself things are clearer than they may be had there not been such a chance for introspection.

I think we also look for other avenues of spirituality and healing when the more mainstream ones turn either a blind eye or an angry face to us. I think this is why there are so many gay Buddhists. (I also think Buddhism is a very sensible philosophy)

Of course, not all lesbian/gay people fit this profile. I think the other end of the spectrum can be true as well.

But for those who really want to know themselves and live an authentic life, being gay can be a truly wonderful gift.

###

I have to reply to 'pappy'

You have zero idea of what you are speaking. Unless you, yourself, are gay, then you do not have any leg to stand on.
I would like to point out that the recidivism rate of 'conversion' therapies is almost 100%. Trying to turn a gay person straight (or vice versa, for that matter) is something that is NOT supported by medical science. It IS supported by fundamentalist Xtains who insist their interpretations of the Bible are not only correct, but must be adhered to by everyone.

I see that you have trotted out good old Leviticus 18 to support your thought that God hates fags. If you are going to pull this line out of the chapter, then I assume you never
1) Eat any fruit off of a tree the first four years it bears fruit (Lev 19:23)
2) Wear anything woven with two different kinds of thread (Lev 19:19)
3) Eat rare steak or hamburger (Lev 19:26)
4) Clip your hair at the temples or trim your beard. (No shaving!) (Lev 19:27)
5) Treat immigrants (either legal or illegal) with anything less than the utmost respect (Lev 19:34)

Remember that God's word is holy, and it must ALL be obeyed. There is a lot of other stuff about how to sequester your women during their period, how you must sacrifice doves in a burnt offering, not eating shellfish, making sure you keep away from all unclean animals and birds. But I'm sure you already do all of these things.

My question to you is: why would someone who is so afraid of and hateful towards gay people saunter inside a gay section of Yahoo Answers? Are you getting cheap thrills reading the posts here? You do know, don't you, that people who display the most vigorous homophobic tendencies usually are harboring homosexual tendencies themselves? Maybe you don't know. Well, medical science is onto you, buster. And so are we.

Just for a little light reading, why don't you saunter into the link I am providing below? This is a link supplied by the American Psychological Association. Since you are so very concerned with treatment and healing, you may like to read up on how things have progressed since the 1950s.

Answer 4

I think when you have to deal with any condition outside of the societal mainstream, you gain great insights about yourself and society. People who are born gay and want to be healthy and happy must get in touch with their sexuality in a world that often condemns them for something over which they have no control. This takes courage and insight.

Applying courage and insight makes you a better more empathetic person. These skills allow you to open up to other parts of yourself and the world around you. So yes, you have greater insight into the grander scheme of things.

I don't think it is just gay folks who are forced to gain this insight. I think people who deal with physical disabilities gain it. I think people of color gain it. I think really creative people (artists, musicians, designers) who are trying to deconstruct and reconstruct the world around them gain it. This is why diversity provides so many benefits. Society gets to experience a multitude of perspectives and is not allowed to grow stagnant.

As someone who has dealt with the pain and uncertainty of going against society's stupid little rules and roles, I can say that I am forever changed for the better. It's sort of like a re-birth. Sure there is pain, but then there is life, sweet life.

Answer 5

I could not agree with you more and yes people should just live and let live,but they feel a need to object to the way others live there lives.who wants to be a clone .I,also appreciate diversity.it is the spice of life.all love is good,so why object to people loving one another.same or opposite sex

Answer 6

Hi there, good post :)
Sadly with this hatred they are causing many problems to many people without even realizing that,
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkglF6rG6yYOwR6jhJ8.kxzsy6IX?qid=20070306135558AAv7337
i think that religion is the first one to blame, is there God? can anyone prove that? Will you people just stop this please?!
CAN WE HAVE a peaceful life like anyone someday?
we will die someday please leave us alone in peace
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/europe/6066606.stm

Answer 7

Simplistically, Gays were "designed" to help combat ignorance and racism.

Answer 8

You are not born gay. It is a lifestyle choice. And I am not judging you. Its not my place to judge anyone. I have several "gay" friends with whom I socialize. I know people who were gay and have turned "straight. Gayness is also not a disease, but it can be treated just as any disease can. If you prefer being gay then do it. But the Bible says "do not lay with a man as you would a woman. It is an abomination to God". It is your choice, and no one has a right to judge you. Only God has that right.