My friend is on a business trip and she asked me to come down for a night. We were all excited until she found out she would be sharing her hotel room. She thinks she'll be rude if she asks her roomate if I could crash on the floor. She also justifies not asking because she wouldn't want the other person to invite a friend to stay. I understand all that, but if I come down, I'll have to spend more money to have my own room. At first I said I couldn't efford it and them I checked my accound and found I could. It would mean a lot to her if I go, but I don't think my husband wants me to spend the money. The last he's heard I'm not going, and I can't get ahold of him before I make my decision. I'm waiting for him to call me back. Should I stay or go visit my friend?
2007-03-06 05:33:25 · 5 answers · asked by Bex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Right now she thinks I'm not coming. I haven't told her that I found out I could afford it. Part of me feels that if I can afford it and don't go, I'm not being a good friend. She's having a lousy time on her trip and I was supposed to brighten her week.
2007-03-06 05:46:32 · update #1
I got a hold of my husband. He blessed the idea and said that it's up to me. There are so many "no" answere though. Now that my hubby's okay with it, am I selfish to go or in the clear?
2007-03-06 07:45:39 · update #2
If your friend wanted you to come to "brighten" her week she should have considered how you would pay for it. If you have a spouse to consider and household bills, etc that have to be paid and the "extra" money could be used for other things you would BOTH enjoy, I say tell her that you cannot come unless you stay with them. She is absolutely right saying she wouldn't want her roommate to do it to her, but she started this. If she asks and the roommate says no, that's the end of it, if the roommate says "no problem" then you could go. You never know the answer until you ask the question. Good luck to you and God Bless.
P.S. Would you want your husband to spend the same money on a little trip with his friends or on something the two of you could enjoy?
2007-03-06 05:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this friend of yours that is on the business trip who asked you to come down for a night that you will not be coming.
2007-03-06 05:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she asked her roommate, the roommate may feel uncomfortable saying no. I would feel bad saying no to such a question, so would feel obligated to say yes.
If your friend already thinks you're not coming, and your husband thinks your not going, case closed. Save your (and your husbands) money.
2007-03-06 06:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by Stitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husnabnd has to understand ur friends are important to u
2007-03-06 07:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as u like but i say don't go
2007-03-06 06:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋