When i will stop thinking of her?

Question

i loved a girl very much. we were in the relationship for 3 years.parents rejected our marriage.She got married to another guy. Now its 8 months after her marriage.Every min i think of her like what she is doing and how she is? unknowingly i search for her whenever iam out.Recently she called me, keeping her marriage life in view i said her not to call through out my life. It was painfull but its my duty to tell her like that.
Plz suggest me iam missing her terribly.
I known keeping busy is one of the solution but still when driving, bathing, eating. sleeping and even when iam brusing my teeths iam thinking of her.

Answer 1

I feel sorry for you. But you have done your best. Now, you ought to leave it at that, and look for another soul who would fill the void, and it is entirely possible. Time is a great healer.Try to relax and feel happy that after all you loved her, and this is what matters in life.

Answer 2

From Personal Experience I will say

- Staying busy is one thing
- Reading books
- Excersing

etc Divert your energy to something else productive.

What is gone is gone history dont cry over it. If she is gone she was never yours in first place.

I personally dragged a relationship just like your self for 5 years after marriage i.e. being friends with her calling her trying to see her etc... but it was never the same instead the way I changed my life was

Setting up goals and looking around -- look around you there are so many unhappy people with so many complex problems then love try solving those and you will feel better example
go volunteer some were .

Help 1 stranger every day

If you are in school study hard

If you are not is shape excersie

Try to think it like this may be it sounds stupid but think about the activites you mentioned driving (What if you dint have a car) eating (what if you dint have water) sleeping (what if you dint have shelter) this things might sound a little out of scope to you

but think of people who dont have it and think how fortunate you are to have it.

So look at the positive side... get your self together and do something productive.

forget the girl

dont pick up her call

forget that she even exist

and focus on just you and then try to live a better life constantly challenge your self with your short commings and try to overcome it every moment of the day.

Eventually you will feel teriffic and some one will fall in love with you

Good luck

Answer 3

No one said love was easy. I can tell you from personal experience that it is hard to let go all together. Time is the one thing that we all have. You need to start focusing on other things or else you will be hung up on your past love. I would recommend that you start going out with your friends start hang out going places. You will never forget totally your first true love you will always have a special place in your heart for her. Good luck to and anyone else who may have gone through the same thing.

Answer 4

I am sorry you are having sucn a hard time,but trust me it will get better,it takes time some longer than others,but you have to get up and go on with your life,yes staying busy can help,but you need to go out interact with other people,meet new friends,eventually you will be ready to start another relationship,you can't see that now but you will.I wish you luck and I hope this helps a little.

Answer 5

If she really loves you, she should have not married. Instead she should have stand by you no matter what or even if your marriage was against the whole world! What you should do now is try to forget her, she's not worth your love. Learn to go out with other girls, I know there is still one true love for you. As the saying goes, "behind the clouds lies the silver lining". And please pray always for you to get over this. It really helps!

Answer 6

First of all why you should forget her. Your thought of her is not going to spoil her. But do not spoil her life by calling here/visiting her. Whenever you want to forget that only will be there in the memory. As the days go, you will have your own family and you will be very busy with your family. That time you will not have time to think of others.

Answer 7

There are two things.
By letter an spirit.

By letter. That means physically you are away from her.
When she called you ,you acted and shown your gentlemanly behaviour. That is nice of you. Try to be nice for ever as told to her.
By spirit. that means ,mentally you are not away from her. That is not good. Anything more you do will affect all the three. ie she ,her husband and yourself and it will create big social problems,stigma etc.
Solution. Get married ,forget her once for all .Keep her as an angel in your mind at the back o it and it should not affect your wife and life too.
Wish you good luck to go with your letter and not with your spirit.

Answer 8

I`m sorry that this has happened to you, she was too weak to go against her parents, even though it sounds as though she wants to be with you.
You are a strong man and did right when she phoned you.
There isn`t an easy answer to this, you are feeling hurt, feeling like you can`t eat, you don`t want to go out and try to find someone else ........... but you must do this, you have to go out and mix with others.
This girl is spoken for and unless you want to have a divorce hanging over your head, you must try and get on with your life.
All i can say is that it will get easier, It will take time, but it will get easier. Good Luck

Answer 9

I know how you feel. I was with my boyfriend for 5 years we wanted to marry buy his parents would not accept it. So we split up and he had an arranged marriage with in a few months. I know he is unhappy, he wants me to stay friends with him but I cant as it will be unfair to his wife. It has been 6 months and I still think about him. Time will heal you but its going to take a while. x

Answer 10

Forget it dude.....Its past & its over.

- FIRST DESTROY ALL THE THINGS WHICH REMINDS HER.
- DO NOT VISIT PLACES WHICH YOU BOTH WERE VISITING FOR ROMANCE/LOVE
-DO NOT SPEAK ABOUT HER TO ANYONE
-CATEGORICALLY DENY HER CALLS. TELL HER TO SHUT-UP AND DONT CALL/MESSAGE YOU

ITS HARD BUT YOU GOT TO DO ALL OF THE ABOVE NOW!

Do not think that you had that relationship some time back by chance! you chose to be part of that relationship and even she enjoyed it dude! what am trying to say here is... you can choose to be in another better relationship with another better person!

Do not panic by thinking you have lost something which you had possessed purely by luck and do not doubt your ability as an individual to get better things in your life.

Just move on dude! life is all about moving forward no matter whats in front of you....

START BEING WITH YOUR FRIENDS.