Should I Find Out The Sex Of My Baby?

Question

I am torn between finding out and not. One one hand if I did find out it would make picking a name easier (only one!) and I could decorate the nursery and buy baby stuff that's not yellow or green! On the other hand, there aren't too many good suprises in life and that's definitely one of them. Plus I hear that it's extra motivation while your in labor because you want to know what it is.. what do you think? Should I find out the sex of the baby before it's born?

Answer 1

for gifts and nursery and things like that it would be best to find out. . .however if u just recieve all neutreul colors it would be fun to be a surprise. . i just dont think i would be able to do the surprise im to anxious about things haha.

Answer 2

I found out for the first one but next time around I am not going to find out. As far as the color of the outfits, that doesn't really even matter once they are born. First of all, they grow out of the first outfits so soon you will have to buy more anyways. And once people find out you had a boy or girl you will get gifts that will be either pink or blue. And if you are planning on having more children I would suggest doing a neutral nursery anyways since you could have a different sex baby the second time around. My vote is not to find out, I think it would be so much more exciting. I think that is the way it was meant to be :)

Answer 3

This is a good question, only you can decide but I would agree to find out if it is your first. There is so much stuff to buy, and outfits to try and wash, and rooms to put together that it is hard not to know. However, I did find out with my first and my mom thought she saw a pennis (supposed to be a girl) in the ultrasound so I was paranoid. My ultrasound tech said she is wrong about once a year but you could be that once I guess. This is my 2nd and I did not find out (33 weeks) I have one girl my sister has 2 boys either way I am set. Good luck and don't worry too much either way you are going to be suprised and happy, and when the day comes you will. just want a healthy, happy baby.

Answer 4

We found out with our first baby---a little girl who is now 2 1/2yrs old. I'm now almost 38wks with baby #2 and we did not find out. There's definitely pros and cons to both ways I'm finding out. With our daughter we had a Bambi decor theme for her nursery so it didn't really matter boy/girl for her other than added flowers and butterflies, but we knew her name and could call her that in utero. Also I had her coming home outfit picked out and ready, and while we had neutral stuff too, we could pick out cute pink blankets and things. However, at the time of birth, I do kind of feel like we missed out on the surprise element because we knew what she was. Of course you don't know what to expect for looks (lots of hair or not, etc.) so that's still exciting too.
On the other hand, not knowing this time around---- I think I am more excited to find out and it will probably be a better motivator during labor because I can use that as my focus. And I'm really looking forward to my husband going into the waiting room to make the announcement of It's a ????. I think that will be fun! However, I don't think other people are as excited because its so routine anymore to find out. Everyone is guessing of course and they all have their wive's tales and reasons why, but no one has given us any baby items yet and there's been no baby shower or anything. My sister-in-law says she's waiting because she doesn't know what to buy since she doesn't know if its a boy or a girl. Also I've found its harder to decide on a name. We've had several options for boy and girl, but now we aren't sure again on the boy's name. And just calling the baby "it" during the whole pregnancy has been weird too.
I haven't had the baby yet so I can't balance the total surprise and excitement that goes with finding out with the negatives of not knowing, but in the future I really don't know if I will decide to find out or not. I know that's more confusing and probably doesn't help you much yourself, but good luck with your decision, and your pregnancy.

Answer 5

What I did to keep a little surprise was find out the sex, but keep the name a secret. Everyone is still playing all of their little guessing games and they are really excited about the upcoming birth so they will know the name. I think it is easier because I looked at the neutral stuff and it still seems more boy oriented than just neutral. I know people who didn't find out and all agreed it is easier to go neutral if you are having a boy. Ulitmately this up to you, but I hope I helped.

Answer 6

That is totally your choice. I found out, but that was because me, my husband, and our families were DYING to find out! lol. It's up to you, and nobody can tell you which one to decide on. It's fun to know, and is a great bonding experience (I think) because you get to "know" your baby as a baby with a name before its born... not just baby. On the other hand, you're right, I could see how its motivation to get through labor. Good luck with your decision, and sorry I wasn't better help. God bless!

Answer 7

I am 37 weeks prego with my first baby. We decided to find out the sex (it's a girl!). My husband isn't able to come to any of the doctor visits with me due to scheduling, so i had the doctor write the sex of our baby on a piece of paper and seal it in an envelope. Later that night, when my hubby got home from work, we were able to open up our envelope and it was a really nice surprise. I have enjoyed knowing that i was having a girl.....able to get lots of family and friends hand-me-downs ready for her to wear.

But, that being said, my mom has a theory that if you know the sex of the baby, you will get mostly clothes at your baby shower b/c the clothes are SO cute!!! I found this to be true!! My baby has lots of gorgeous outfits, but we didn't get the bigger items we registered for. Also, nobody included receipts with their gifts, so i can't return the clothes. I'm not complaining, and i'm very greatful for all the gifts that we did receive, but i have heard lots of stories about all the clothes that never get worn by the baby b/c they grow so fast!! If you decide to find out the sex, you may not want to announce it ahead of time! Have fun and enjoy your pregnancy!

Answer 8

I couldn't wait to find out, I figured the 20 weeks of waiting was enough. I know a part of me wanted to wait, but for me, financially it would help to know before hand that way I wouldn't have to go buy pink and blue stuff later. Maybe if I had the money to wait I would have because it would be a great surprise. You do what you think is more comfortable, either way you'll love them the same.

Answer 9

You know what I'm going to do with my next baby? We are taking my mom and his mom with me to the appointment where they tell us what the sex is and I'm not letting the DR tell me or my husband. I will let him tell our mothers. They can coordinate the baby shower accordingly and we can find out that way. It will still be a fun surprise and everyone that's invited to the shower can be told in the invitation that its a surprise and not to tell us that they know. When we show up we can see if the decorations are all pink or blue. We aren't even married yet and we've picked out names for our kids so that won't be an issue. I think it is a neat idea...

Answer 10

I can't wait to find out! I find out on the 23rd of this month what we're having. you could find out, have a name picked out, save money and time when your exhausted by getting baby things NOW rather than later, and plus--you could still have that special motivation--wanting to see what your baby looks like! I can't wait for that!!!