Baby sleeping in BED with us!?

Question

I just quit breastfeeding (I HAD TOO IT WAS NOT WHAT I WANTED TO DO) and when I breastfeed, my daughter slept in the bed with my husband and I...because it was easier for me. But now I can no longer breastfeed and my daughter is 3 months old...I want her to start sleeping in her crib! When I put her in there she only sleeps for about 3 hours MAX! Please help me!! I would love to snuggle up with my husband again!

Answer 1

It will take time considering a lot of 3 month olds don't sleep in the crib yet. When my son was smaller he slept in his carseat (with belts and everything taken out and a blanket padding the inside) as he could not sleep with us or in his crib. He actually slept almost all night this way and I kept the carseat in the crib when he slept so he would get used to it. Now he is older and sleeps on a twin bed, but when he is sick he sleeps with us and afterwards I have to ween him back into his bed by putting him back in it everytime he falls asleep on my bed. You may have to repeat the process a few times a night, but eventually she will be in her crib full time and your hsband and you can "snuggle" again!

Andrea

Answer 2

Start a routine. Get her ready for bed, maybe do a bath have a bottle put on sleepy music and then in she goes. If you consistently place in her in the crib for naps and bedtime she will forget about the bed and be more comfortable in the crib. Its a amazing, when I get lazy with my daughter and put her in the bed she really wants to be in the bed and not the crib. A few days ago I put my foot down again, we've done this a few times now, and she is going to bed on her own in the crib again. She is young enough where it should only take a few days to get back to sleeping. If you just stopped breastfeeding though, it may have more to do with feeding then sleeping. Watch out for gas issues with the formula. I stopped breastfeeding at three months and gas played a large role in my daughter's sleeping habits. She slept awesome the first three months and then went on full time formula and had some definite gas issues.

Answer 3

Since your baby is used to sleeping with you she will go through a phase of not wanting to sleep on her own. I would suggest maybe getting one of those bears that you can get that has a heartbeat in it that sounds like yours or even some people say an alarm clock because of the ticking noise it makes help sooth them.

I have a 8 month old that is only sleeping about 3-4 hours at a time still. So don't feel bad your not the only one not getting sleep.

Good Luck

Answer 4

I co-slept with all 3 of my babies, it was great!
My suggestion would be to take the side off of your crib and push it right up beside your side of the bed and the wall. This will keep it secure. A bassinette would be too small for your baby at this point. Once your daughter can go longer periods you can slowly move the crib out of your room.
This way you can still reach and hold your baby & be beside your husband at the same time. This is what we're doing right now to help my almost 2yo transistion to a big boy bed like his brother and sister already have.

Your baby is going through a rough transistion right now....not nursing anymore and being ejected from her comfortable and secure family bed. Take your time....one day you'll miss this and regret it if you push too hard.

Answer 5

Snuggle up w/ hubby the 3 hrs she's sleeping and once she wakes up, put her in your bed. That's what I do w/ mine & he's almost 3 yr old. It's unreal but he still wakes up! UGH! My 1st son slept thru the night in his crib at 6 weeks. All kids are different and mine in their sleep habits are night & day. I'm sure she will outgrow this eventually. I still have hope...LOL!
Enjoy her bc they grow SO fast!

Psalm127:3
3 Children are a gift from the Lord;
they are a reward from him.

Answer 6

My thought is that depending on how big she is, maybe start her out in a portable crib in your room to start. A crib is pretty good sized. How often did she awaken to feed when you were nursing her? About the same amount of time? She may just be also accustomed to that routine. She also misses your body heat, and your heart beat. A heating pad would be the wrong thing to use, but something that can substitute for your heart beat would be good. I think there are teddy bears with aheart beat in them. Also, for security, and warmth, maybe consider wrapping a receiving blanket around her to swaddle her, then a light blanket over that (loose) to help keep her warm. Take care.

Answer 7

my son stopped sleeping with us at 3 months also, i just made sure he took all his naps and stuff in there, she may have a hard time adjusting to the formula it may give her a tummy ache and thats why she wakes alot it gets easier the more she gets use to it, u can also put the crib in ur room for a week or so so she gets use to it

Answer 8

my son is 10 months now and I made the same "mistake" of bringing him to bed, I am still breastfeeding him but now he will only sleep in his crib for 2 hours if we are lucky. I think the best thing for you to do is juts to put her in her crib and when he wakes up don;t give in and put her back to sleep in her crib. it will be hard and you will be tired but after a while she will get used to her crib again.
I've been working on that lately and it is taking me WAY to long now because he is older but it is working slowly but it is, he will stay in his crib longer now. so the sooner the better.
GOOD LUCK !!!!!

Answer 9

many times I could desire to try this with my son after his night feed. *Yawn* at haven concerning to suffocation, stick to the secure advice for co-dozing. in fact final night my companion saved pulling the covers as much as his chin and it would flow over our sons head (he replaced into interior the middle) not basically did this action wake me besides the undeniable fact that it additionally made my son fretful so there's no way he'd suffocate. I the two extremely sleep or sleep in this way of inflexible place I wake with a bad back, cricked neck and lifeless arm. unsleeping or asleep its all approximately keeping my infant!

Answer 10

It was not what you wanted to do?

Man... I didn't want to be pregnant for 9 whole months... should I have given up around the 4th month?

Please don't take away 2 major comforts at the same time. That can really stress a baby out. Let her sleep with you for a bit longer and then start to transition her into her own bed.

At 3 months she is going to wake quite often still... alot of babies wake through the night on up to 2 years. If you don't want to nurse, then get used to getting up with her.