Have you ever had a friend with benefits and then memories that linger for a lifetime?

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Mine was many years. We have both moved on and have married. We live in different towns and haven't been in touch for over 10 years. But I still think about him. Our mistake was that when we broke up- we lingered as FWB for a couple of years. The emotional ties where still there- even though we fearsly denied them. We chased each other at different times. But we never reconnected at the same time. Then I got married. Then he got married. And I still fantasize- if nothing else, we had passion- OMG kinda passion.... Alright, I know I am not the only one out here with sexy skelatons in the closet- share your story. Best story wins the points!

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Answer 1

Been there, still there.... Yea its the facts of life really that most people don't really get. Marriage is more of a deal, while something like that is love in its more truer form.... We might hide the honesty of commentment to marriage but we trade that off for being as real as we can be about how much we care. A dangerous thing in a marriage sometimes since it is pretty close to a business deal as oppose to strait passion. Knew a lady for a couple of years at a Vo-tech... had great respect for her back then and a great bit of passion that I hide. I went my way towards college and she went her way towards marriage. Unfornatly for her that marriage was like many other marriages and just seemed like the right thing to do.. so a year or so later (keep in mind we talk unregularly thru the whole thing) she was in destress over the whole situation and need some companionship so started a couple of years of some of the most intense love making I've ever done. It wasn't that we were skilled professionals or anything like that. Shoot we spent most of the time talking, tell we just couldn't talk, so.... but damn it was a wonderful experience. Unforantly we weren't met to be partners in life thou... weather it was me or her or just the way society butts its way into our personal lives it just couldn't work. I feel a lot came down to the passion behind it... no one teaches us how to handle it. The only thing we know is Marriage and a sorta set path for it... so what do we do when it isn't exactly that path? When the relationship just can't fit that way... do we loss them from our lives? I trying not to. But then again havn't found anyone worth marring, since I, like society divide the two....