Married people: What's normal?

Question

How often are you intimate after many years of marriage?
Do you ever struggle with temptation?
Do you ever wonder what might have been?
How long before you stop asking questions like this?

Answer 1

I'm only intimate once a week or two if I'm lucky. It's not because I don't want to though.
Of course, I face temptation. As long as there are people offering something you don't have at the moment you will be tempted. It's what you do in the face of temptation that counts.
Yes, I wonder what or who might have been...but that's a natural part of the way the mind works too.
You'll probably never stop asking the questions, but that's okay...some questions are better left UNANSWERED.

Answer 2

Normal for you isnt going to be normal for anyone else. Ive been married 6 years and anyoen looking at us would think we have the perfect marraige. Then they would be wrong. How often are we intimate. Not at all. You would then think....im sure thats not common. Its more common then you think it is. The very basis of it is comminication. having the ability to talk to your spouce in ways where you feel you can tell them anything. That aspect of marraige is very VERY fragil. Its prescious. Its what makes or breaks marraiges. Do i struggle with temptation, wonder what might have been? All of the time. Almost 24/7....but thats because me and my wife no longer fill that space in our lives we used to fill.

as far as how long till you stop asking yourself these questions? never....its when you start thats the problem, not when you stop.

Answer 3

We've only been married 2 years, and have a child together. We still have sex almost everyday. We both think about the opposite sex (we have very good communication between the both of us), but we know it's just a fantasy and we love each other too much to risk that. I think everyone thinks what might have been, but I'm happy where I'm at and who I'm with. I don't think there is a time limit to when you will stop thinking about this. Hopefully it's only in the back of your mind, if not, maybe you aren't happy with this person. Good luck.

Answer 4

1. couple times a week
2. Sure.
3. Yes, but more in a fun way than a "gee I wish I had that instead" way. It's fun to think about - hmmm, if I'd stayed single with no kids, maybe I'd do x, y, and z. However, if placed with the choice between the two, I'd take my family over that any day of the week.
4. Never.

Answer 5

How often I am intimate is none of your business, and there is no NORMAL, it's different for every couple.

I never struggle with temptation. Ever.

I don't wonder what might have been because I am focused on what is and what is to come.

I don't ask questions like that because I am happily married, love my husband and wouldn't change anything for the world.

Answer 6

1. about 1-2 times a week
2. soemtimes but I I have respect for my husband so nothing happens.
3. All the time........
4. never you just have to realize that this is what you choose and you stick with it.

Answer 7

usually 3-5 times a week after 5 yrs of marriage, no when we want it we do it, no, i don't try to think of pointless questions.

Answer 8

The only problem you'll have is if you wait until the wedding night for your first sex. You'll spend the rest of your life wondering what 'different' feels like.

Answer 9

1. couple times a week
2. YES
3. no
you may ask the questions as long as you are married....... but you may never find the perfect answer.

Answer 10

Stay on your own lily pad. If you are single worry about your own life. If you aren't married it isn't for married people to explain to you. You ain't anyone. What's it to you? Get married and figure it out on your own or stay single and don't worry about it.