plz help if u were raped and didnt agree with?

Question

abortions wud u keep a rapist kid

Answer 1

i know its hard..because it has happened to me. I wanted to keep the kid even though i hated the father who raped me. He found out and MADE me get an abortion. It is not the kids fault for something u didn't do, but something that the father did. U either keep him or give him a good family. Yes a baby inside u for 9months u will get connected to him/her. U won't want to let him.her go. It was hard for me..as i say again and it was only the 3rd month. Don't kill an innocent child..please..It was God's choice to bring that baby into the world to live..so give it a chance.

Answer 2

If you are raped, it is your choice to have an abortion. Typically I would not agree with abortions, but this was not your fault (if you were raped). there is a difference between getting an abortion just because you were careful while having sex and getting an abortion because you were raped. You need to decide if you could handle looking at that child everyday. Would it hurt you everytime you see it because the child resembles the rapist? Think long and hard on this because it is a big decision, but I would not judge you if you chose abortion. If this helps, I would probably get an abortion and if i didnt get an abortion, I would consider adoption for sure. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I am answering this question assuming this has happened to you or a friend or something.

Well every individual is different but I do have 1 friend who chose to keep her child and raise him and I had 1 friend who gave hers up for adoption. It's all a personal decision that noone can help with. However just remember that if you chose to keep the child, you may be reminded of the rape sometimes or even every time you look at your child. If you can handle that and get over that and still love your child unconditionally then keeping him/her would be okay. Also another issue to look at is financial support. It is hard and long-term raising a child. Money is a big issue even with government and family help. I suggest sitting down and going over things like formula, diapers, rent, car, utilities, clothes, daycare if you work or go to school, etc. You gotta have those things covered even if you were to use money from other people. It has to be enough for a decent living. Would you really want your child to have to do without in any of those things? Now I want to touch on adoption, please remember that is a choice. There are many many families who would adopt a child especially the age group from newborn to toddler. There are many families waiting for that age group. Remember you could give it a shot and if you feel you aren't emotionally attached to the child or you couldn't financially support the child then you could always change your mind and give your child up for adoption. Even if you chose adoption there are different kinds. If you wanted to stay in touch with your child you could do an open adoption where you meet the parents and select the ones you want and then keep in touch through the year.

Answer 4

I'm against abortions when the mother had a choice to make and chose to have unprotected sex or sex when the possiblilty of pregnancy existed.

As for rape, there are examinations and tests the female has to go through which would detect pregnancy early. I would opt for an abortion for my own sanity. Being pregnant is hard on the system, being pregnant by a rape would be more than I would want to try to endure and keep my sanity.

However, should I for some reason decide to go full term, the child would be put up for adoption. The child deserves a loving family. I don't know that I could provide that love while he/she also represents a assault in my mind.

Answer 5

i would when I was raped my biggest concern was having the child personally I wasn't able to look him in the face everyday as i would be in looking in the face of my child. I am strongly against abortions but that is the one case that I feel other wise, as a victim myself. I know that feeling of the child he could have left you with. Adoption is always an option and that would require you to carry and give birth to the child and then give it up. Three stress inducers on top of what happened. Allot of women may not be up to it. Once a read a book about a women that gave birth to child a child whose father raped her and the man was really crazy, She gave the baby up and later found out that he was just as nuts as his father and later was arrested for raping someone at age 16. it is also important to remember he will get half his genes from a rapist.

Answer 6

tough question! i really dont know, because nobody can say something if they havent been in those shoes. i personally dont agree with abortion either, but if i got pregnant by a rapist, i would not have the baby! first of all you already went through a lot with the rape, and then, you are going to have this baby, and you are going to have to live with that baby, knowing that his/her dad raped you and since you hate that person that did that to you, you are also going to hate this child. why go threw so much pain in the pregnancy and then in labor, and then after labor?

its up to you, but if you want my honest opinion, i would not have the baby! why mess up your body and your life, for a baby you really dont want, because by you asking this question, i can tell that you dont want this baby. what will happen if you have a have a c-section? that means you are going to be marked for life!

Answer 7

If you go to the hospital after being raped, they routinely give rape victims the morning-after pill. So you wouldn't be faced with that decision. But yes, I would keep the baby, because one of my best friends growing up was this sweet little girl who was born because her mom was raped...and I think if her mom was strong enough to stand up and raise this child of rape with a different skin color than her own, and raise her to be such a sweet, wonderful, and loving person, that maybe babies of rape deserve to live, too. I wouldn't hold it against anyone else if they had to make this difficult decision, though. I'm just saying what my choice would be.

But like I said...if you just go to the hospital after you get raped, you get Plan B and don't have this dilemma.

Answer 8

I would keep it and put it up for adoption. it's not the baby's fault ... it's an innocient baby.

my friends brother was a rape child .. his mom was raped by an unknown man and she kept the child.
they never did catch the rapist .. but she had a son that she loved more than life itself.

good luck! God bless!

Answer 9

That is a very hard question to answer unless you have been in this situation. I would say that no I wouldn't be able to have an abortion, a child is a child and shouldn't be punished for their parents mistakes.

But again, I have never been in this situation, and if I was my outlook maybe a little different.

Answer 10

I think that rape and a medical reason should be the ONLY reason an abortion should be legal. I would keep the baby because I don't think I could live with myself if I had one. But that should be THEY ONLY REASON abortion should be legal, its not birth control and its not an oops fixer either.