I'm a pre-op transsexual, and whenever a man's interested in me I do wonder if he's just into the whole 'shemale' (I hate that term!) fetish thing, or if he's genuinely attracted to me for me.
Unlike a lot of transsexual girls, my **** still works (sorry to be so graphic!) and I do like to use it... or receive with it. But, once I have the funds I will be undergoing gender reassignment surgery so that my outsides match my insides.
But... it seems like post-op transsexuals have a tougher time than pre ops forming relationships--whether we're talking serious relationships or just one night stands. Why is that? Is it because pre ops are just seen as sex objects, whereas post ops are 'just another woman'? I don't get it... yes, I have a penis, but I hope that the men I date aren't with me ONLY because of that--I'd like to think that when I don't have it, they'll still be interested in me. Or am I being naive?
2007-03-06 04:20:23 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Men suck. I think thats your problem! ;)
As the partner of an ftm, and being a woman myself, I have a different perspective on this question. I know for myself, I love my hunny for who he is, with or without whatever parts are coming or going.
But I have that woman-sensitive thing going on, and don't have the male sex drive.
So I'll go back to the advice i was given as a little girl....
There's someone out there for everyone. Someone who will love you for who you are, dispite and because of whatever flaws (or parts) you may have.
Just be patient, you'll find your price charming someday!!
2007-03-06 13:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi Kara, ever since i discovered my bisexuality and transsexualism, i have learned only too well how most guys tend to think. sex sex and more sex seems to be all they care about.
bottom line, whether you are pre-op or post-op, there are going to be tons of men (and perhaps some women too) who will only seem to want sex.. yet there are certainly many people out here that are looking for genunine love, romance, companionship, etc. the total package.
bottom line, you don't have to broadcast or feel obligated to let everyone know whether or not you have a penis. true love is about the person, not the genitals..
you are as much a woman as any women in the world, and regardless of your biological birth sex, or what type of genitals you have, it really doesn't change who you are as a person.
best of luck to you.. i hope you are able to find happiness within yourself and with others. i am just at the very beginning phase of starting to accept my transsexualism, and i can only imagine the scary road that is ahead for me. i admire you and others who have gone thru the transition process.
2007-03-07 15:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a pre-op your are just a sex object. After reassignment surgery your chances are better to find a long-term and loving relationship.
2007-03-07 09:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's because you're an oddity to many men with a weird fetish or kink. Once you're post-op you're just another woman and have to "compete" as such.
2007-03-09 17:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋