my daughter just started her period.......?

Question

my daughter is 11 and she just started her period...I am not exactly sure what to do, as my mother panicked when i started mine, please help

Answer 1

Here is a time to not do what your mother did, and just be there for her, let her know that you are proud of her, that she is a women now. Take the time out to have that special mother daughter talk with her and show her you care, take control of the situation, seeing as though she is so vulnerable right now, she is looking to you for that support that she needs, or elsee she might look for it els where.... i needed that when i first started and never received it, I'm 18 now and made better choices. be there for her... give her ice cream :)

Answer 2

Well, does she understand why she has a period? Not just that 'It's something that happens to women every month', but all the details? If not, tell her how her body works and why she has a period, sex, ovulation, the works! Of course, if you feel she's too young you don't need to tell her too many details about sex right now, just the basics 'sex can get you pregnant, but if you don't get pregnant...menstration! Here's why...' (Edit: We didn't learn these things in school until eigth grade. I knew that the whole bleeding thing would happen, but I was so scared it would happen before I knew why. Once I found out why, it wasn't so scary. This is why I think it's important to tell her why it's happening not just that it's normal.)

Give her pads, tell her how to use them, although they are self explainitory and let her know that you've been through it too and if she needs to talk, ask questions or even complain. That you are there.

Answer 3

My daughter also started at 11. Just be sure she knows that it is normal and she can ask you any questions she needs to. Start her off with some pads. Always makes a slender pad. My daughter really likes it as she is quite thin. There really isn't a lot that you have to do. I always try to check in my daughters bathroom closet and make sure she has plenty of pads on hand. At first she was very embarrassed to tell me she needed more, but as she gets older she is less embarrassed to talk about it. Also let her know that it is normal if she has cramps and she can take Tylenol or Advil if she needs to.

Answer 4

I am only 21, but I do remember my childhood. I was 12 when I started and I FREAKED. I cried and cried and cried.

I just remember my mom telling me it was fine and that every woman/girl goes through this. The fact that she is bleeding is scary, I'm sure.
Just tell her it is normal and that it will come every month and that every girl will have it and that the other girls in her class probably have it too.
Make sure you give her a calendar and show her every month and how to mark it approximately every day that she may start.
Teach her the proper hygiene, show her how to use the napkins/pads/tampons whatever she feels comfortable using.
Talk to her how you feel YOU would be comfortable. And answer all her questions to your best knowledge. I'm sure you'll do fine!

I know one day, if I have a daughter I will have to do the same. Just definitely reassure her that she is not alone and that every woman goes through it and it is natural for reproduction.

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Good luck!

Answer 5

Don't panic. Have you had the talk with her yet? The best thing to do is to let her know that this is OK, tell her about what to expect, how long etc. My mom never showed me how to use anything so I know from experience it is important for you to show her exactly how to use whatever you are letting her use, like pads etc. She is probably a bit freaked out, even if she knows what is going on. You being calm will help her be calm. Kids read from the people that they trust, if you are panicking, she will panic. Hope this helps. Your little girl is growing up, embrace it.

Answer 6

I hope you've already had the mother to daughter talk, but if not now is really the time. Just explain that it is a normal female body function and how to go about protecting
herself and what products to use based on your experience.


Also though it may seem laughable now, how and when to change, (my mom told me "the pad" would catch everything and not to take it off) at 9 years old I took her literary and I'am sure you can imagine the results!! Make sure she understands about
her personal hygiene!!!

Answer 7

Provide her with the basic needs to get her started. I am sure she knows what is and has probably learned about it in school. I know when I first got mine I was very emotional be supportive to here and let her know that you don't look at her any differantly. I wouldn't tell her that she is now a women because sometimes that is too much for a girl to swallow at the moment. I know that I didnt' want to hear that because I still wanted to play with barbies. It seems like she got her's a little young so you really need to be her crutch at the moment and don't let her feel that you are tweeked about it. Good luck to you, I am sure I will be looking for the same advise in about 6 years....pheww.....don't even want to think about that...=)

Answer 8

Take her to her favorite restaurant and explain why she gets a period every month. This is what my parents did and I really liked that. Also get her some of her own pads that she can keep in her room or whatever.

Answer 9

Give her a hug and tell her you love her. let her know she can come to you for any questions. Tell her this is an important step in growing up. sound positive. My mother just yelled at me to get off the couch ( I had bad cramps and didn't understand what was happening) I also decided to do better with my girls. It works.

Answer 10

it'll be okay and just tell her that she is going through puberty and there is no need to fear and it's a significant sign into womanhood. I would suggest starting out with maxipads that are thin and these are more comfortable. tell her about the cycle of the female and what she will go through or you can have the doctor or the doctor's nurse to explain what's going on in her body.