Is it wrong to have thoughts of killing yourself just because your parents dont agree with the person that you choose to be with, and the choice of lifestyle that i live. they dont understand who i am and where i am coming from. they tell me that i dont make sense.
2007-03-06 04:01:11 · 27 answers · asked by Alonzo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Don't give your parents that much control over your life, it's not fair to you or the person you choose to be with. If you really want to show your parents that they're wrong about you, live out your life happily, successfully, and with someone who loves you a lot.
2007-03-06 04:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Killing yourself because someone else doesn't understand you is not the way to go. Even if you are only thinking about it, it isn't right. Live your life to suit you. You can still love and honor your parents,even if you have to do it from a distance. When they start raggin on you, just tell them you will call them back or make up some lie and leave. After a few of those, they will get the hint that you don't want to discuss it with them. If they start raggin on you about the person you are with, listen to them, they may see something you don't. Watch this person to see if you can see what they see. Ultimately judge for yourself. If being gay makes you happy, then so be it. Be as gay as you wanna be. So what if it doesn't make sense to them. You have to be happy while on this Earth.
2007-03-06 12:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Shorty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay but tell me what suicide will resolve? It gets you out of a hard time that is for sure but then what? You are dead. There is no chance for your family to come around and understand, they are left with pain. You hurt friends, family and loved ones all just to get out of a hard time.
You love this person so much you want to go against your parents - but you don't love them enough to spend the rest of your natural life with them? You don't get to grow old. You don't get to sing or laugh or dance. You don't get to kiss or hug or feel the sun on your face again. You rot in a hole.
How would that improve anything?
Nope suicide is not the answer. You are MUCH stronger than that and you need to respect yourself more than that, life is simply too short as it is, you don't need to squander it away.
People change, people grow (well living people that is)...your family may never like the person you are with, but I bet they still love you a great deal and they will be devistated is you harm yourself.
Nope nope nope this is not the way. The only way is to simply figure out another solution. Talk to your parents tell them what you have considered because of how they made you feel. There is so much to live for you need every moment in life so that you can soak up all the joy in the world.
2007-03-06 12:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
None of us make any sense to our parents. However, killing yourself isn't going to solve anyones' problems. You will either have to come back and do it all over again or worse, go to hell for being so selfish. Depends on what you believe, but know your soul is in jeapordy. The lifestyle you live is up to you when you are out of your parents house. You have freewill and you have the right to choose what is right. However, you must understand that your parents have lived enough to know how to guide you correctly. You might want to read the Holy Bible and pray for guidance while praying. You will get the correct answer you need there. Don't end it all because you are having a hard time getting people to understand you. Our entire lives are full of people who don't understand us. Thank you and may GOD bless.
2007-03-06 12:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm actually in class right now and shouldn't even be on here, but your question really breaks my heart. First, you don't really want to commit suicide, do you? I mean, granted, you get away from all the bad stuff that life throws at you, but you also get away fromt the truly wonderful opportunities that may come your way. Mankind is in itself heaven and hell simultaneously; nothing in the afterlife can compare to what we do to and for each other. If you ever need someone to talk to, my email address is below, I'm online a lot, since the Internet is part of my coursework at school.
And to the man that suggested that you're problem is a matter of prayer, he makes me so mad I feel like screaming.
2007-03-06 12:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pssh! and let them win?! no way. Ive thought bout suicide before but im getting help for it. I suggest you do the same. Life is full of to much beauty just to end it all! Keep going strong man. I promise it will get better. And do u really want to her youre boyfriend and friends that badly? Didnt think so.
Warm Wishes
2007-03-06 13:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly can't say if contemplating suicide is right or wrong but I can say that it's more common than you think. If there's a P-FLAG chapter in your area, maybe you could contact them for some information that you could provide to your parents. And if there's a gay community center in your area, you might want to get a referral to either a therapist or some peer counseling.
And if you're contemplating suicide, please don't follow through with it.
2007-03-06 12:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask a counselor at school to help you find a gay and lesbian youth group in your city. Most cities have a center for questioning youth. They are very helpful in getting you some counseling and helping you to find a good support group. They could even help your folks understand what you are going through.
It's not the end of the world brother. There is help out there. Believe me its worth it.
2007-03-08 16:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by sfcastrolionmark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don’t listen to Pink Mafia, he’s a bisexual guy who can’t come to terms with it. That’s why he spends all his time on the gay section here. He’s messed up in the head and that’s why he thinks you can change sexuality. It didn’t work for him or he wouldn’t be on here all the time.
Don’t let your parents get you down. I also felt the same way at your age, but things will get better. There’s lots of support out there and people can help you.
2007-03-06 13:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is their problem - that they cannot or choose not to understand. You have a responsibility to yourself and your happiness. You may have these thoughts (indulge yourself) but it is not the solution.
Were you to kill yourself - what of the person with who you would share your life?
2007-03-06 13:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋