Me and my boyfriend have been fighting lately. I think maybe we spend too much time together, we don't go out anymore. When he gets mad he yells, then I get mad and threw the vacume and he yelled you always escalate things and make them worse. I just feel like I want to break up with him. I think I need to give him a good scare because we are getting too comftorable in our rel. He has been rude lately. I cleaned the wholehouse 5 bed while he was at work, no thank you, a girl called him late at night. I told him how I felt a girl that works with him but still. SHe said I know you are sleeping calling to chat. It's me. I wrote him like a 3 pg letter and he said nothing. Just read it and that was it. I think I am going to act like I am really moving out and pack some stuff. It's like you get to comftorable and don't appreciate the things you have ya know??
2007-03-06 03:52:29 · 16 answers · asked by will help the best I can... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just get out. If you two have this much animosity towards each other then you're just going to go on making each other miserable forever. You might do ok for a while, but the misery will come back. Move out before either of you wastes too much time on this and certainly before you even consider marriage.
2007-03-06 03:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Some Guy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's best to move out. Go to ur parents house or a place you can stay for about 2 weeks to a month. Don't call him let him call you. He will soon realize how much you mean to him and will start missing you and will want you back. Don't get inpatient and go back to him as soon as he calls you, make him feel what he made you feel by making him be without you. He will then appreciate the things you have done for him.
2007-03-06 12:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lil Nena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to go into time out. When you start throwing things for any reason, it is a sign to chill. Maybe you both need space and don't know how to say it, (since you state you are not even speaking). If you can't talk to a person, how can you love them?? Take a break, move. If he is for you and you are for him, you will realize this soon enough after leaving.
2007-03-06 12:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Rosebudd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that their are too many men in the world to spend too much time worrying about what one (who won;t even talk to you) thinks. There is some one out there who will talk to you, and can have a normal minute with-out fighting every day. When you fight all of the time it won't be long before he puts his hands on you and not in a good way.
2007-03-06 12:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you pack up and "act" like you are moving out you better have a place to stay cause you might not be allowed to come back.
Sounds to me like you two can not get along and do not have communication at all.
you have to have trust and honest communication or the love will never last. Be sure when you pack you are ready to go.
If you are not ready to go, then talk to him and try to work things out. If you can not work things out then maybe it is time to pack for real.
be cool...
2007-03-06 12:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ACT like you are going to pack, you should really do it. Games are not cool in a relationship. Don't give him a good scare, don't waste your time just leave before things get much worse.
2007-03-06 11:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Peace2All 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out. If he can't even be bothered to talk to you and you both can't seem to have a civil argument and given that you're not commited (you don't say if you are, so I'm assuming you're not) and that you don't give this relationship much hope, it's time to move on.
2007-03-06 12:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course break up with him. he's not worth your time. he seems immature, but you might as well be together if you would get so heated as to throw a vacuum cleaner at home. so perhaps you two crazies belong together!
letters only work when they are responded to. and since he cares so little about you as to not take the half hour at most it takes to [God forbid] WRITE you a decent reply, well then, sweetie, you're out of luck...and out of a man.
2007-03-06 11:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by MMMillicent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that may work but i dont think so . my girl and i rais our voice's often enough but all we need is time to be apart some time , we live in the middle of nowhere and it's hard to take time out w/are son but i go out for a bit. but i forget to say thank you some times but you need to tell him if you want to really break up you have to really think about it hard
2007-03-06 12:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by Damien GOTTI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm it sounds like you're not ready for this relationship and the fact that he can't communicate with you...is a pressing issure for you....perhaps you moved in too quickly...and now you have to think about being healthy..and if this relationship is making you sick then its time ...to end it....you shouldn't feel guilty either...guilt is never a good enough reason for staying in a bad situation...good luck
2007-03-06 12:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋