She's 9 months old & he never wanted to admit to his friends that had a daughter. As of recent, he's suddenly mentioning her as his own now & posting comments about her in his online profiles. Now he's talking to me, after almost 1 1/2 years of not saying much.
Am I just paranoid or do you think he has some secret motive here? I dont know if I feel this way because I am not used to getting his attention & him talking about his little girl proudly now or what..
Should I ask him about it or do you think that will make him reverse his actions? I like that he's talking now, but it's just so strange.
By the way, he has just moved across the pond, so it's not easy that I can just go to his door step & talk to him about it. My friends thinks it's sweet, but they haven't had hard relationships in their whole lives...whereas I had too many bad ones. I'm guessing I am having a bad outlook because of that...but just dont know if I should go with my gut or keep my mouth shut & try to enjoy it.
2007-03-06 03:48:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
P.S. I also keep thinking he's using her as girl BAIT. He can be a big flirt & I've heard of guys using their kids as a weapon to lure women.
AHHH. LOL
2007-03-06 03:49:27 · update #1
Give it time and his real motives will come out. I had a similar problem with my daughter's father. He was unsure if she was his because of some rumors that one of my neighbors (who had a crush on him had spread ed). He always supported her but had some doubts then when our daughter was about 9 months old, he and I sat down and discussed it and he apologized. About a year later, he came to me again and apologized. You see the rumor that my neighbor had started was that I was having sex with another neighbor, when I told him that although the neighbor and I were good friends that we weren't sleeping around because the neighbor was gay. He thought that I was lying because the neighbor and his brother were friends, well it later came out that both of them, were gay and that my neighbor lied because she liked him. My daughter's father admitted that he knew that the girl liked him and was afraid of becoming a father but he has since grown up and taken care of his responsibility. Our daughter is now 17 years old and headed to college. Give him a chance maybe he is sincere and if he isn't time will tell.
2007-03-06 04:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learn to follow my gut, if you can learn to enjoy the attention without letting your guard down then it will be perfect, its hard to let them have a relationship when is bad history in between, just play safe than sorry, he is not with you and as much as sometimes guy brag about their children the fact is that we women end up with the big load of responsibilities and most all the time we do not get appreciated for it, so while he is trying to be good, then let him, enjoy it, used it to better you, your life and your doughter, but do not let your guard down, the fact that he doesn't live with you is part of reality. Good luck.
2007-03-06 12:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Knella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this new attitude affect your life. Don't get into discussions about it. Just be glad he recognizes that he has a daughter. Keep him informed, don't even worry if he's using it to make himself look more attractive to women - what do you care? That ship has sailed. Just be happy your daughter has a dad who's far away but thinks of her now and then.
Don't be surprised, however, if his interest cools at times, too.
2007-03-10 03:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just talk to him about it and I mean have a SERIOUS conversation about this because this is a serious situation, its your daughters well-being.
2007-03-06 13:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by Vonne W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋