As a manager, I have struggled with one particular employee since the middle of Dec. Last week we sat down and she told me she didn't have a problem with anyone else but me. I asked her if she had any solutions because I had tried everything I could to make it a comfortable work environment. Yesterday (monday) she put in her two week notice. (YAY!) I told her that we would accomadate her if she wanted to go ahead and start her new job. She was not obligated to do the two weeks. So tomorrow is her last day. Do I take her out to lunch or just wish her good luck on her way out the door? It's a situation where I do not enjoy being around her. Lots of friction ever since I told her that I thought it was rude for her to wear her hat to the table when we ate together.
2007-03-06 03:46:41 · 13 answers · asked by Sara 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
LOL MISS MANNERS didn't address women wearing hardhats and backward baseball caps to business lunches did she? I was not being rude about her hat and at the time we had the conversation, we were coworkers working under the same boss, thus equals. It was okay for me to have the discussion with her in a friendly coworker conversation about professional attire.
2007-03-06 04:03:23 · update #1
Where does sexual harassment come into play? Good grief people. :(
2007-03-06 04:06:07 · update #2
My boss's statement to me was "Sometimes these situations work out for the best. Her leaving isn't a loss."
2007-03-06 04:08:35 · update #3
Are you at work now? Hehe well i dont see why you should take her to lunch. You dont like her company and neither does she enjoy your company so why put eachother through that torture of having lunch together. Its just gonna be an awkward situation in which your not gonna know the right thing to say, you know to not offend her or anything(even though you want to lol). I say just wish her luck and if anything you can always just invite her and hope she says no lol.. But then again you seem like the nice, sweet type so if you wouldnt mind that much to be nice to her one final time then i say do it, what harm could lunch do right...but yeah up to you lol no pressure.......GOOD LUCK
2007-03-06 03:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by Beckhams_wifie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps this is a good learning experience for you. You should be glad you didn't have the lady take you in for sexual harrassment. Yeah, it can happen.
First, allow me to point out that as a manager, you are in a posisiton of authority. In telling the employee that she is RUDE wearing a hat to eat, you have taken that authority out of the workplace and into the NON work place. (Breaks and lunch are considered NON work time.) Whether or not you are correct about the wearing of hats while eating, you used your authority OR their PERCEPTION of authority to demean an employee on her break. Not a good thing for a manager to do. AND if you did it while in the presence of other employees, even more you owe her AND the others an apology for overstepping your professional bounds.
Wish her luck, apologize for not having made her employment more enjoyable and learn from the experience. That's all that can be asked of anyone.
2007-03-06 11:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by Marvinator 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely do NOT. It sounds like this woman does not like you. Taking her to lunch can very likely send the wrong signal and possibly get you caught up in a whole legal mess if she were to try to come back with sexual harrassment, which she could. You're best bet is to say "I'm sorry things didn't work out here, if there's anything I can do, don't hesitate to call for a letter of recommendation etc" and leave it at that. Do not get personally involved.
2007-03-06 11:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Good riddens!! In all my experiences with employees leaving, only those that leave under favorable conditions were treated. You did way more for her than you had to do by trying to make it a more confortable environment. This is something that she should know is NOT going to happen every time she decides to bail out of a tough situation.
2007-03-06 11:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by dougwomack 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree that you need to learn some management & people skills. It sounds petty so she is better off by moving on. Don't make a gesture such as taking her out to lunch as it's clearly not sincere & would add to the tension. You do realize that this situation, someone leaving, is brought to light to your boss?
2007-03-06 12:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by COblonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are certainly not required to take an employee out to lunch. Especially when you don't get along. This usually only happens when a close business is sad to see an employee leave.
2007-03-06 11:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by cnm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wish the best and send her on her way. If you were having problems with her to begin with, one lunch is not going to resolve anything. Just be grateful that she's some Else's problem now.
2007-03-06 11:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by gokusgirl_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good bye and good luck will suffice and nothing more.
Women may wear hats at the table, not men. You have no business criticizing others when you could be wrong as you are now.
You aren't doing a good job as a manager. You are rude.
2007-03-06 11:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by The Rabbi 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
let her go on her merry little way... if you wish to give her a "nice parting gift" give her a photo of yourself on a dartboard with some nice sharp darts... at least you would get a laugh and she may even get some use from it!
incidentally, it is socially acceptable for women to wear hats to the table- just not men
2007-03-06 11:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by notfromaround_here 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, you really don't sound like a very good manager.
If you were, you would realize that a lunch is to thank her for her contribution to the company and that your personal enjoyment of her company is not the issue.
And telling a co-worker what you think of their attire is unbelievably rude. You were so out of line to do that it isn't even funny.
Wish her the best and leave it at that.
2007-03-06 11:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋