Essentially My wife and I have been married for 3 years. My mom shows various indications of jealousy when I buy something nice for my wife. She in a way tries to compete with my wife as well. My mom in general didn't really get much jewlery from my dad until my wife and I got married and I had bought her a anniversary ring. Afterwards my mom tries to get from my dad nice diamond jewlery every year. Any little thing my wife and I get for our house she gets jealous about in some way. When we got new furniture she got a little funny.
2007-03-06 03:46:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
most definitely.....mothers tend to be that way with their sons, this is an extreme example.........however i wouldn't say that your mother is jealous of your wife for your attention, its more based on her own insecurities.........as you said she's trying to get those same stuff from your dad. Maybe if your father was as romantic of a husband as you are, then she wouldn't be so jealous and insecure. She's probably jealous of the relationship that you and your wife have, fresh love, and not really jealous of your wife in particular.
2007-03-06 04:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by JamDQqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the mother of five sons and have experience with this... you are creating friction between your mother and wife even via your own indication.
mother-(son-husband)-wife
Notice the center there...your going to break your entire family up if you continue on with this. I'd start encouraging healthy family ties pronto because it sounds like things are ready to blow.
It sure is ....possible that is and the first sign is when your wife starts calling you a "little boy"(step #1) which I'm assuming isn't what you really want. Listen to those around you there are comments made that speak to the big picture...you are the head in the marriage not to mention have an extended family that loves you as well.
2007-03-06 04:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmmm.... That not jealousy. Thats a kind of fear you mom has. And that shows the amount of love your mom has for you. Mothers shower their love towards their son. When they see their son caring/loving his wife, they start feeling insecure. They start feeling that their DIL will take their son away from them. The more she sees the love/care you both share, the more she gets worried. This is a result of whats happening in the society because of some DIL"s. Nothing's going to change if you leave it like this. It might get worse. Tell your wife to build a rapport with your mom. Make your mom get comfortable with her.Before buying something for the house, ask your mom's suggestions.Make her understand that she is also given importance. BUT, DONT LET YOUR WIFE DOWN WHILE YOU COMFORT YOUR MOM. Thats very important.Try and get both of them into a comfort zone. Everything would be fine. Tell me what happens... If possible..
2007-03-06 04:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dream♥Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is jealousy really, You have to keep in mind that she was the woman of your life until you met your wife and now she may not be feeling as needed or loved as she did before. I know it sounds silly, but we are women and when our babies leave and find a wife, we have all these weirdo feelings of missing something in our lives. Also maybe your dad is not as attentive as he should be or that she thinks he should be. Maybe she sees how well you treat your wife and wishes your dad treated her that way as well. As we get older, we feel less appreciated and would like for our spouse to show that they still love and appreciate us, to romance us, ya know? Just be patient and ask your wife to be nice to your mom and show her respect. Hang in there and be patient, I 'm sure things will turn out well in the end. Maybe put an idea in your dad's head to do a romantic weekend or night out with your mom; it might be just the thing for them both!
2007-03-06 04:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Texas Pineknot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, mothers can get very jealous of your wife. They tend to think that your wife is now the woman of your life, and they are taking a backseat. It is like they are losing their little boy.
2007-03-06 03:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by qtpie9_84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. It is totally weird, but I guess they don't like the idea of sharing him.
2007-03-06 04:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely...mothers get very weird with their sons...i find it odd, myself
2007-03-06 03:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋