my dad is divorced since many years: my mom is thinkin of bringing another boyfriend but I have special feelings for her and don't want to share with another person, i can't sleep without her; she is sensual and warm and i like to kiss her everytime what should i do to prevent her from bringing another man
2007-03-06 03:35:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I am not sure, but I think you're a teenaged boy. What you are having is what is called the Edipus/Oedipus Complex. I'd say that you shouldn't worry about your mother having a man too much. I guess that it's not really normal, but it can be expected. Because what happened is that you were the only man in your mother's life, and now you feel like you're being replaced. No, honey, you're not being replaced, and your mother loves you just as much as always. However, there are different types of love, and the type of love that she and your father had, you can't provide to her. She would like to feel fulfilled in her life and would like to feel that type of love again.
So, please, go easy on your mother. Don't be too hard on your mother's boyfriend. causing friction between him and yourself would only make things hard for your mother. So don't think that driving him away is going to protect your mother. Instead it will only make her suffer more, and I know that with the amount that you love your mother, that you wouldn't want this to be the case. Good luck, and please try to exercise patience... for your mother's sake.
2007-03-06 04:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by Heidi D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope this does not sound too harsh, but maybe you are just a little bit too possessive about your mum. She has to lead her own life, and if you try to prevent her having a man in her life you could lose her altogether.
If you love your Mum as much as you say, you should think more about her feelings instead of your own. Your Mum's new boyfriend might be a very nice guy if you give him a chance, and if don't think so you should discuss it with your Mum and tell her why. But you should at least meet him and make an effort to like him.
2007-03-06 11:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Son it sounds to me that you need help and this is what you would call incest. I do not know how old you are but you need to cut the cord, and let your mom be happy. It sounds to me that jealousy could hurt your relationship between you and your mom if you do not let her find a man.
2007-03-06 19:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your dad lived by the same rules? give your mum a break adults sometimes need more than a kiss and cuddle.... now off you go and play with the traffic in the high street for a couple of hours.
2007-03-06 11:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by richiesown 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Does your mum not deserve to be happy with someone she loves?? Her feelings for you and feelings for her boyfriend are seperate. And you sound a bit obessesed...what do you mean you cant sleep without her??? And kiss her all the time??
2007-03-07 08:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Dee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are and I assume you are female, but at the end of the day its your mums life not yours. How would you feel when you are older if your mum said that to you.
You're being unreasonable not to allow your mum ANY man at all.
if you have a genuine reason for not liking a particular man then you need to talk it over with her.
2007-03-06 11:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Figures, I suppose it is be4cause they went well together and had spent a long time getting used to one another' foibless. After all your Dad and your Mum go together like Your Dad and your Mum (and you only have one of each.
2007-03-06 12:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by jimmyfish 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. get in your own bed
2. grow up a little
3. live your own life -- share it with mom like you would a "mom"
4. get out of mom"s way so she can continue with her life a little
(time's gonna come when you fly the nest, and mom's gonna
want a companion -- maybe she wants an adult companion
right now).
5. there's lots o lovin in a heart, you don't lose ANY of what's there
for you if mom finds some for somebody else.
2007-03-06 11:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like incest to me. Let her go, its upto her to lead her own life and be happy, don't be so selfish. If a boyfriend (suitable of course) makes her happy, surely that will make you happy as well if your own mother happier?
2007-03-06 11:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by rikerlock 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel you just going through a phase but if that other dude hit yo mom Wear Him Out!!! Already
2007-03-06 11:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋