I cheated and husband has forgiven me...I'm now suspecting him of the same thing because he is handle this too well...he says he wants to start over brand new...why is he so calm...
2007-03-06 03:23:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your trust is broken because you broke it. Now you suspect him of doing the things you have done. Why is he so calm, because he has forgiven you. You need to take the steps to regain his trust not accuse him of the very things you have been doing.
2007-03-06 03:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no pain than a pain of knowing that the woman you sleep with is sleeping with another man. Everytime he thinks about it his whole body goes off. But now you suspect that he is cheating on you. A cheater knows better when someone is cheating too. Stop being suspicious and live your life with your husband. Accept that he has forgiven you and move on with life
2007-03-06 11:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dr Yahoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just cause you did it dont mean he did!!! I am a cheater too and I was forgiven too but I kinda in a way was surprised by his reaction too. I dont think its them I think its the little voice in us playing tricks...in some odd way it was like I wanted him to cheat on me so we could be even and I didnt have to feel so damn guily for giving in to my attraction. My husband threw a fit at first calmed down and since then treated me like a queen something that he did not do for years. Weird yes...does it mean he is or isnt??? Dont know but do some investigating if you have too.
2007-03-06 11:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least you admit it to yourself and to him, but why did you went the other way??Was your husband not good enough to you and in bed??No offend lady but I am on the same boat like your husband but I still cant forgive him for ruining my kids life and their x-mas. If I didn't caught him,he probably still doing it.
So do ask yourself why did you have an affair and hurt your husband and if you answer that then maybe you will know why your husband is acting so calm..............
2007-03-06 12:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably was for a long time your husband had suspected you of cheating. If he decided to forgive you and has a willingness to start over then be glad.
2007-03-06 12:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a PERFECT way to screw up a PERFECT thing. So you cheated on your husband, he found out about it, and is dealing with your infideltiy so well that now on top of everything else....you're going to accuse HIM of cheating? Are you out of your friggin mind???? I'd say you're doing an AMAZING job of totally screwing up your marriage! If driving him away and divorce is what you're goal is then by all means, keep up the good work!
2007-03-06 11:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is he so calm? Because when he married you, he made a promise to you. Stood before God & family, for better or worst through sickness & health till death do us part. How would you prefer he act towards you now?
Let no man come between what God has brough together.
2007-03-06 12:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will only get that answer from him...all we can do is speculate which will get you no where
if you cheated on him,...and you obviously don't trust him or you wouldn't be on here asking what to do...then my question would be why are you with him in the first place?
1. you cheated on him
2. you don't trust him
...why are you with him??? you will have to do some thinking and figure that one out on your own...none of us can get inside his head and give you an answer as to why he is so calm or anything else.
talk to him...if you can trust him, and find out why he is taking so calmly. I think I would do some soul searching myself
be cool...
2007-03-06 11:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows? Be glad that he has forgiven you. A lot of men would have filed for divorce by now.
2007-03-06 11:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lady, I think you are trying to find something to be mad at him for, to avoid having to face just what and who you are. Face that fact. Maybe it is pissing you off that he really is a good guy and deserved a lot better then you, so it is eating you alive. You have to find something to hate him for dont you?
If a man is good, you women hate him. If he is bad, you hate him. No matter what, you ladies simply cant be made happy. Nothing satisfies you all.
2007-03-06 12:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋