My ex is cold now, we don`t talk at all.?

Question

Hi,

My ex and I have been broken up for nearly one year. She doesn`t talk to me at all and is with another guy. I already wrote about this, and now because of it all landed up on Prozac.
I think I made a few mistakes in the relationship, but I don`t understand how someone that I am about to have sex with, go on holiday with, get very intimate with, and saw almost every day, for a period of 7 or 8 months, can become so cold, and 9 days later after breaking up she tells me is into another guy. This is what really pushed me over board, and I flipped at a party and got thrown out. I know I made mistakes, but I am human, and I sorry for them.

Can anyone be so cold and cruel? Is she for real?
She just turned into granite.Now she seems so happy. We are at the same university. Very unpleasant.
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What I want to know, is it normal for feeling to just die like that after all that?
Sure, we went through ups and downs, but I was only 22 and this was my first relationship.

Also, I see that my friends usually talk to their ex's and at times things rekindle. The thing with firsts is that there seem to be ups and downs all the time - did I just land up with the wrong girl? Has my time not come?

Answer 1

It seemed like you were tooo into her and that might have freaked her out...You need to give a woman space and not show too much love...that will keep things interesting...move on...

Answer 2

Awww i really feel for u , as i know the pain that u feel..unfortunately u just loved her more then she ever loved u.. and she really doesnt deserve all this pain , hurt, and energy ur wasting on her. Some people are cold when it comes to relationships, they are very selfish and only want "what" they want.. and can care less how the other person feels, needs, or wants.. best thing for u to do , is chalk it up to picking the wrong girl.. this will probably not be the last time this happens unless u get lucky and find a really great girl off the bat. Im assuming that with u only being 22 that she was either the same age or younger, so chalk alot of it up to being immature, on her part, and knowing what it takes to be in a "real" relationship.. be greatful that u didnt waste more then 9 months on her, because she obviously treated ur feelings like crap and could care less.. just use it as a learning lesson and stop letting her constantly hurt u by wasting so much time on someone that doesnt deserve ur time in the first place, she was lion in sheeps clothing and she ate u up and spit u out.. she is not the person u thought she was, and most women arent this cold and callus.. most women are suckers for tears, and hurt.. so she is a rarity, and she will get whats coming to her down the road and one day she'll be sitting there and she'll realize how she screwed up by leaving such a great person, and she will feel bad for treating u so badly..

Answer 3

ok, being a 22 year old female, i may be able to add some light into this, first of all, she seems as though she's done with your relationship (hard i know,) but she's moved on, you obviously cared more about her than she did about you. You need to stay away from the circles she travels, it's only going to hurt you even more. I say what i'm going to say next from experience, you don't want to stay "friends" with an ex, it doesn't work, your always going to feel jealous, if you were friends before, she may eventually come back around to being your friend, but if you just met and started dating, then i really don't believe you can be friends after having a relationship. Hang out with some of your friends, try not to think about her, and when you do, hope she happy, if you care that much about her, all you'll want is her happiness. I hope this helps, someone told me this when i broke up with my ex, and i took their advise, and met someone new, that was over 2 years ago and i'm engaged to be married!! I hope you all the happiness in the world as you embark on this new time in your life!!!!

Answer 4

You obviously saw more into the relationship than there really was. That old saying "love is blind" is true. In your eyes you saw love and in hers she saw different. You cannot see this even today, because you were blindly in love. This can happen. This is why her actions seems so un real to you. You were blind, so you never saw it coming. You have not looked at the real fact of this relationship and have been in denial thinking it was something more than it really was. Next relationship, try to open up your eyes and really see things as they are. If it is love the next time you will know it is and you will not be treated the way you were treated by your ex girlfriend. Remember, just because you have sight, does not mean you are always able to see.

Answer 5

I think you need to stop dwelling on this problem. I know its hard, but you need to just get past it. People can be cruel. It's sad and it's unfortunate, but people can treat each other terribly. So why are you so sad that you lost her if she is so cold and cruel??? Instead of letting yourself feel so upset, torn up, depressed, confused, etc., make up your mind to get over it. Then, get out and meet new people, and find a new love interest. Dwelling on this girl and this problem is not doing anyone any good, and it certainly isn't going to change the breakup. It's good to recognize that you made mistakes. But don't dwell on your mistakes. Just learn from them, find a new relationship, and don't repeat those past mistakes. Good luck, feel better, and have fun.

Answer 6

That's why you two are broken up, man...she just wasnt that IN to you, and found another guy she can relate to better.

It happens....sometimes the people we think are The One, don't think we're The One, back....there's someone out there for everyone, just keep looking. And don't do anymore of the goofy freak-out stuff, that makes you look bad to anyone else who mightve been interested in you.

I know it's hard, but you need to move on. Women can be cold hearted b!tches, man....Really. We're mean and low down and cruel sometimes. We can't help it.

Answer 7

You need to get over it and go on with your life. If you mean it when you say you you know you made mistakes and are sorry then you learned something and you can take this new found knowledge with you to a new relationship. You can do things differently and some great gal will benefit from your learning experience.

Answer 8

Women/men use passive aggressive behavior often. She is empowered by this. Especially if you feed her this "How could you Do this to me?" attitude. Pick yourself up by the bootstraps and move on.....meditate, get active physically/mentally, Do something. I'm not trying to sound, well, mean about this. But this kind of crap happens to us all at some point. Get over it, let the good energy come forth. Move on....

Answer 9

Since you are in college, consider it a class you got a D and the semester is over. Go to the next class. You are not the first and won't be the last one for this scenario. Want to blame yourself or her, go ahead. Won't change anything.

Answer 10

It is normal. But she doesn't sound like the greatest person. I know it is hard to forget about the ones we have loved but try going on dates and meeting someone else. I was on Paxil and Prozac and neither of them helped me. I found out that I have to make my own happiness and not shove pills down my throat to create it.