We're told that we live in an equal opportunity society, where one gender is just as equal as the other. If so, why is a man considered as lazy and unmotivated if the woman goes out and works and he stays home to keep up the house?
2007-03-06 03:19:00 · 22 answers · asked by Wee Bit Naughty 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Cause from the begining we were told that men were suposed to work out the house... no matter what they say now, that idea won't change in some generations.
2007-03-06 03:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by User 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's because we don't live in an equal society. Us feminists keep trying to tell you that we're trying to make things better for _everyone_, men included.
The upshot is, women's work is undervalued, unappreciated. Women trying to go into traditionally men's fields will have problems, but they're sort of respected, if they can hold out. They've got _balls_. Men going into women's fields are... well, p#ssies. Why would a man lower himself to do women's work? Of course women want to be like men, who wouldn't? But why would a man want to be like a woman? That's what the problem you're facing is. A househusband is debasing himself, just as a male nurse is. And obviously a male kindergartner teacher could only be a molestor! If this were a truly equal society, a man could stay home and raise his kids without comment. Until then, I'm sorry.
2007-03-06 23:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by random6x7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife was in the Army when we got married and so I was the only one with the option to stay home with the kids. I was home for almost four years and raised 3 infants. I did everything including all the mid-night feedings and such. It was a very difficult job and she was gone all the time. By the jtime my first born was 8 weeks old she had to leave for 2 weeks.
So, I speak from experience. I almost never got any negative feedback for staying home with the kids. In fact, when I reversed roles with my wife after that time period she got more crap from other women about not being "her own woman and having a career" than I ever got for raising the kids.
I have found that the people who critisize are the ones who are critical anyway. If you stay home with your kids you are lazy if you put them in day care you are a bad parent. In my opinion, do what is best for the family and to hell with the naysayers.
2007-03-06 11:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Pooky Bear the Sensitive 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's baloney for ANYONE who stays home to raise kids to be judged as "lazy, unmotivated and slovenly".It is hardly the norm for women to be able to stay home w/kids here in the US any more, either. Mostly higher income folks are the only ones left with the option to raise their own kids. Everyone elses' kids are in daycare.
Being at home raising kids is one of the hardest jobs in the world, and it is honorable whether done by a man or a woman.
Good luck.
2007-03-06 13:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by Croa 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great if a man chooses to stay home with the kids. One of my good friends is a "house husband."
Both men and women should have the ability to choose (or not choose) to stay at home with the children, and no one should be criticized for the choice that they make. THAT is equality.
Personally, I'm a mom but not a stay-at-home mom. My career is very important to me.
2007-03-06 12:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by stormsinger1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it's considered lazy. My brother and his wife both worked for 6 figure salaries... he at Prudential, she at JP Morgan, and eventually my sis in law had twins, and my brother was the one who stayed home with the twins to raise them. He got a good amount when he left the job, but he was one bathing, feeding and combing hair, teaching them to read and whatever...
He cooked as well. I don't think that he was at all considered lazy and unmotivated. My father wasn't a stay at home dad, but he used to cook and take care of us as well (only thing he wouldn't do is clean). Truth is that a lot of our traditional gender roles are changing, and people are slowly coming to terms with it. I guess it has to do with not generalizing and all that.
2007-03-06 11:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi D 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ANY stay at home parent these days is often considered "less than" those that work. Personally I admire any parent (mom or dad) that stays home with thier children. If more children had a stay at home parent (that actually cared for and interacted with the child) many of today's social ills would lessen.
2007-03-06 13:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by Rain 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A man that stays home to take care of the kids is not lazy. People may be surprised that a MAN (gasp!) is staying home with the kids. But I've never heard "lazy" attached to this.
2007-03-06 11:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jay 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Many women still have the expectation of an husband who provides, just how many men still have the expectation of women who stay home looking after home and children. A lot demand hubby to look after household and children as well, but that does not extempt him from bringing home the bacon, they say.
2007-03-06 13:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree... it's not right. I've known a few stay-at-home dads over the years and despite the fact that they were home because it was what they and their wives agreed was best for their family they were treated poorly because of it.
Also, if a man stays home with the kids it's harder for him to get back into the work force. (Although from experience, I can say it was very hard for me as a woman to get back in the workforce, too- I went back to school and changed careers.)
If a man stays home and there are no kids it's even more criticized.
It's not fair... but it's common.
2007-03-06 11:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by Behaviorist 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋