about me. I don't work with them in our office, I work more closely to the men, plus their lifestyles aren't close to mine. I am a completely single mother of 2 children. They've alread voiced that they do not like me, but I've never given them reason. They purposely leave me out of their circle, work parties, lunches, etc. and have even stated they do not like me. Why do they act this way? What can I do about this situation. We work in a small office and I was the "new girl" but now two others have come in, and are part of their group. It only bothers me because I am the only girl left out. The male coworkers I work with don't have a problem at all with me, and do not feel the same as the girls. Whats the deal?
2007-03-06 03:16:20 · 5 answers · asked by NestleGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
they are haters! and you should love it. I once heard a wise man say that you need at least 10 haters in your life. You go to work to work not to make friends. I am the only African American in my area; and to make things even worst I am the only female in the entire building of about 174. I have to hear all kinds of mess, and I love it. I use to cry but now I am so happy. Get happy with yourself don't let them know that they are getting next to you. If you show them that you are showing weakness. From one sister to another forget about those things that are behind you and press forward. I wish you well. I pray that God will lighten your load and fix your heart.
2007-03-06 03:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by luckycharm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I work on the same floor as male engineers (being a female engineer myself, and the only one at the company). The girls downstairs are pretty catty... and say things to me just to see what my reaction will be... one girl especially. When I pretend that I'm not listening or paying attention, but with the air that I think they don't know that I'm doing that, this girl would say out loud... Hmmm I wonder how come she is not listening to us.... and I just continue on with the blank stare that I'm not listening... but I am. That's just the way things are... unless you want to move to another job. But I figure that I will stand my ground and stay where I am... because why should I move, or change my job or the way I carry myself around work or who I am just for their sake and cattyness. When that happens... I guess it's a girl thing to be that way (though I'm not like that)... they just have nothing to talk about so they probably choose you (because of some admirable qualities that you have that they don't have) and try to turn you into talk and something problematic (when you are perfectly fine just the way you are without their added opinions).... and then the guys, they talk sports all day... that's a guy thing I guess.... but I'll take 8-hours of continuous sports talk in a heartbeat over catty chat, wouldn't you agree? Like I was saying, when that happens, it helps to build a circle of friends outside the office. Like I am in a singing group and have been for the last 7 years... and the girls in the group aren't like that. My younger sister's job is different... all the girls go out and do things and they have parties and nights out and go to each others' houses for dinner or to play cards. Just remember, your friends don't have to be made in the office. You're not really there to make friends. Get along, yes, but not to be best friends (besides, you wouldn't want them to be your friends like that, would you?). If it helps, just think that at least the work day is only 8 hours long.... after that.... it's your time to do whatever and be with whoever doing whatever you want. Hope this helps!
2007-03-06 11:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by blueskies 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just say ignore them. I had a similar problem at my old job, except the woman would smile in your face, except you in the "circle" but every1 was talking about each other behind there backs! I think that's woman in general. Some people are petty, but just like it sounds hard for you as it was for me, so i quite. But it was a job not a career, and i didn't have any kids at the time to take care of. Just stay focused on your job, and forget those chatty cats!
2007-03-06 11:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just stay professional with everyone and do your job well....if they have issues it is their problem. You are there to do a job not join a club. Do not get involved with those women, simply ignore their comments and try to remain positive around them, you do not want their catty ways reflecting poorly upon you.
2007-03-06 12:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by otherflavor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're jealous you get along well with men in the company (the men respect you) and you're not sleeping with them to do it.
Their problem....not yours.
2007-03-06 11:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋