34 weeks pregnant and hating sex!?

Question

I am 34 weeks and hating sex more and more everyday! I have had no sex drive for the past few months. But I continue to have sex with my husband, for his sake. but it seems to be getting to the point now to where it hurts and I am starting to despise it! IS this normal? Is there anything i can do to get my sex drive back? Will it come back after I have the baby?

Answer 1

Sweetie it is normal, it will return after the baby.Seeing though that it hurts why not try something different like maybe just pleasing him so that you don't have to be miserable,good luck and best wishes

Answer 2

Hi Heather

This is normal darling and there's not an awful lot you can do about it to be honest. Its hardly surprising that you aren't in to sex right now, your hormones will be all over, you're not going to be feeling the most sexiest right now and of course its uncomfortable and painful everything is going to be all squashed up inside and there's always the added fear that baby might be able to feel or that baby will get hurt.

There are still things you can do with your husband that you can both enjoy, hand or oral relieve for example and maybe incorporate a buzzing friend which I must admit sometimes gets me off more than my man!!!!!

Your sex drive will come back but I cant promise this will be straight away, once baby is here you're going to be tired for different reasons, just promise you will keep time to one side for you and your husband even if its just for hugs and kisses.

Congrats and good luck xxx

Answer 3

Its very normal. You have a lot going on down there. Talk to your husband, tell him that it hurts and your not enjoying it anymore. If he's supportive he'll understand. (There's still other things you can do for him if you want) After having the baby, your sex drive usually comes back. I can't say all the time because for some women it doesn't. You're going to have a newborn on you all the time, so you may get "touched out" for a bit. Just think, if it didn't come back, people would only ever have one child.

Answer 4

This happens to the best of us. =) I didn't really have that big of an issue with it until right about the last month. If you explain to your husband and he's an understanding man, I'm sure he won't ask you to do something that you're deriving actual pain from. Your sex drive should go back to normal probably a couple weeks after baby is born (which actually works out perfect with your six week checkup). In the meanwhile, tell your hubby to work the Internet or rent a lot of videos.....lol. He'll be just fine, despite the fact that they act like they're going to die. ;)

Answer 5

It hurts because your belly is continuously growing and the pressure makes it feel so much worse.
I'm 35 weeks and find myself exhausted at the end of the day, sex is the last thing on my mind!
Just explain to your husband that your body is making it difficult for you to enjoy it. Don't worry your sex drive will come back sometime after the baby is born, just make sure you have your birth control first! Lol..

Answer 6

During my second trimester, I was a sex addict. As I got closer to delivery, though, and more and more uncomfortable I didn't want to do anything, let alone have sex. After waiting the six weeks after giving birth, I was definately ready for sex again, and my husband's and my sex drive is great, if not better than it was before (of course now we have to find time - usually when our son is asleep) I think most pregnant women as they get closer to the end lose some of their sex drive. I wouldn't worry about it too much! Good luck!

Answer 7

You are 8-1/2 months pregnant. It is normal for your sex drive to dimish the closer you get to delivery, and yes it can hurt some. And there are more ways to have sex than just intercourse.

After birth a woman's body gears itself more toward nuturing the newborn than toward sex, however, that also dimishes as the baby gets older.

You should talk to your doctor about your feelings, both mental and physical. He is the best source of information.

Answer 8

I am 33 weeks and have struggled with my sex drive all throughout my pregnancy. It makes me feel so guilty sometimes because I want to please my husband. I think hormones are just so crazy during pregnancy, and for me, feeling the baby move is wonderful, but is the farthest thing from sexy. I believe I'll get my sex drive back, in the mean time there are other things you could do to please your husband besides intercourse. I still have sex, just not as often as we used to, and I am very honest with him about how I'm feeling afterwards because it does hurt sometimes. He doesn't want me to be in pain or uncomfortable, so he understands that he may not get much action between now and the birth.

Answer 9

Don't forget, you are the one that is pregnant. Your husband should be more concerned with how you feel instead of you worrying about him. You will be having your baby soon and even though you will both (meaning your hubby) be tired. You will find the time to take care of the sex. Give yourself a break and he will too. If you are not careful, you could find yourself resenting him because of it. Just let him know how you are feeling, and that it is temporary. I didn't want it when I was that far along either.

Answer 10

just tell him im sorry it hurts i cant do this anymore for now we can try again before the baby a loving husband will understand and more than likely it will come back after the baby it may take some time to feel like yes i want to have sex now but it will happen but yes its normal to feel ugh about it the baby is getting bigger and your starting to get uncomfortable just do it as time gets closer for you to go into labor and good luck to you