my wife is complaining that i should make love with her after giving her easy time during her labuor period and after giving birth, i decided to give her 3 months to heal the wound and some soars that were realized when giving birth.Now she is claiming that i dont love her. what was i supposed to have done instead?
2007-03-06 03:00:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Give her anal.
2007-03-06 03:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by Edub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your cues from her. If she feel like making love, then go ahead. Be gentle, and if it hurts, be prepared to stop immediately.
Women are pretty hormonal before and after birth. It takes a lot of adjusting, particularly to their self-image. The wear and tear of pregnancy and delivery can do a lot of harm to the way a woman feels about herself. If she felt rejected by you (whether it was real or perceived), it's going to make matters worse. She may be afraid you think her body is now gross.
Right now, the little things will make a huge difference. Look for opportunities to be thoughtful - helping with dishes, making up bottles, changing diapers, etc. If she's ready to make love, go for it!
She might also be suffering from post-partum depression. That can happen to be the best of women. Just be patient, and if her moods don't improve, you might suggest that she go back to the doctor to check for PPD.
2007-03-06 03:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is safe to have sex during pregnancy right up until she goes into labor. After birth, most doctors recommend waiting at least 6 weeks so she has time to heal and stop bleeding. You can remind your wife how sexy she still is to you...she may be feeling poorly about her larger body and feel like you aren't attracted to her anymore. if you aren't wanting to have sex with her, be intimate in other ways like holding hands, snuggling, romantic moments, etc.
The problem I see in what you wrote was when you said "I decided..." This is something that you should talk about and decide together. She'll know when her body is ready for sex again, talk about it rather than imposing rules on her.
2007-03-06 03:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by kbis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and talk to her let her know its not that you dont love her it was that you were afraid to because you thought that you would hurt her or the baby and that after the delivery you gave her time to heal so that she wouldnt get hurt and that she would be ready so talk to her ask her if she is ready and then let her lead the way and how it goes tell her you just wanted to make sure that she was ok and that you wanted to wait until she was ready mention the fact that you werent an animal and trying to get sex from her at like 3-4 weeks after the baby was born when other guys do that to their wife so just let her know that it was out of love for her and not wanting to hurt her that you didnt pursue her yet
2007-03-06 03:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by sexy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, either she's hormonal and could use a little help adjusting, or you just odn't show her in any other ways.
Sex is very often a battelfield for things no-sexual at all!
Find out what else gives.
You sound like you could be totally on target, if the sores were bad.
So there may be another problem.
2007-03-06 03:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust her instinct, when she is ready she will know it. My husband and I were enjoying ourselves again about 4-6 weeks after giving birth. You may have to take it easy at first, but trust her.
2007-03-06 03:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by lil momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋